Boss Up with Bevin Your dream life is at the end of your comfort zone

2020-07-30

The heart of life is good

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , , — Bevin @ 1:11 pm

(This post is part of a series of daily letters from me to my future children reporting from the emerging paradigm.)

Dear Kids:

I drove up to Hurricane Ridge with mom (Nanny) this morning. Her spouse Pat had gone up with her photographer buddies a couple of weeks ago and I was jealous.

I’ve been hearing about Hurricane Ridge and how it’s “Like the Sound of Music” in the high mountain meadows covered with wildflowers. We never had enough time to visit Hurricane Ridge during the season on my previous visits before I moved here and when I finally got here in November it was already too snowy to go.

I’ve been asking when it’s okay to go and finally when Pat went I was like YAY LET’S DO THIS! But, we had a lot of Corona risk factors to keep in mind.

I live in a beautiful part of the world that is very touristy, especially in the summer. In my new place in the neighborhood I can hear the highway clearly and I know that there’s a ton of traffic headed right for the nature destinations to the East. (It’s also where the closest big box stores are, I’m sure there’s local traffic to account for.)

To dodge tourism we decided to go up early in the morning on a Thursday, departing at 8am and arriving just after 9. It was already fairly bustling with people while we ventured on our mountain path walk through the wildflowers and by the time it was 10:15AM there were more cars and people than I’d be comfortable with.

Only about 75% of folks were wearing masks up on the trails and in the parking lot even less people. Stressful, especially given all the info I keep reading about how even with a mask if a covid infected person isn’t wearing a mask it puts you at risk.

Hard to think of that and see other humans choosing not to wear masks and have compassion and empathy. I kept having to remind myself when I’d have a judgment thought loop beginning, “The heart of life is good.” I say it again and again. The script that my ego/judgment brain goes to is, “It’s HUMANS THAT ARE THE VIRUS.”

The heart of life is good.

There were magical wildflowers, my mom definitely did not wild forage wildflower seed pods and hide them in her pocket, and we had a lovely day looking at the trees, the mountains in the distance, Canada and a perfect little snowpile on a shady slope that looked like a heart.

A lovely morning hoping that the goodness of life will grow through this snowbank of a pandemic.

xoxo,

Mom

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2020-07-28

Supply chain issues

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , — Bevin @ 10:19 am

(This post is part of a series of daily letters from me to my future children reporting from the emerging paradigm.)

Dear Kids:

When the virus first broke out, we had no idea how it would affect our ability to get food and supplies. Mom went really hard in the garden this year so we were certain we would get fresh produce. For a second I thought about doing some canning.

Instead we just stocked up as was advised, for up to 30 days. I go into town once a week to replenish our water stash–the well water here is not delicious–and get supplemental groceries from the food co-op.

So far, at the end of July, four months into quarantine, I have only experienced two big disruptions in supply chain that have affected my life.

I ran out of PG Tips, which if you as my children don’t know that in my opinion this is the greatest commercially available black tea made for daily use then I have failed to prepare you for a great life. PG Tips. Remember this.

I’m trying hard to divest from Amazon, and it used to be I could get it at a little discount on PG Tips from them. Now it’s the same price or more than the grocery store (possibly due to better supply chain on the grocery end, maybe they got a better distributer, who knows).

Though I don’t have much money right now, I am incredibly intentional with how I spend it. So I spend at the Food Co-op which has the greatest impact on my local economy, rather than making Jeff Bezos more rich.

The Co-op (and the local Safeway, to be fair) throughout the pandemic, has had a few empty shelves due to distributor errors. They’ve had times where what they ordered didn’t come in at all and was just ??? when they would be getting things in. Nothing major, nothing irreplaceable. I just drank the rest of my stash of Irish Breakfast Tea from Trader Joe’s.

Finally they got some PG Tips in, in the 40 bag box not the 80 bag box I prefer. Not a huge disruption for an imported tea product. And like everything in this pandemic, it just took more patience on my part to weather the disruption.

The second big supply chain issue I had was Biscuit Reynolds’ food. He has lots of special needs, including a special food from Royal Canin that has two special formulas in it. I like to buy bulk to save over time, but the big bags weren’t available as he was running out of food.

I bought a bag from the online pharmacy our vet up here uses. And then as his food dwindled I heard nothing about shipping. I called, apparently Royal Canin was very disrupted by the pandemic and his food might not be available for a long time.

Panicked, looking at less than a week left of his food in my supply, I called the vet. I was able to get half his formula in a small bag from them (the Urinary SO, to prevent bladder crystals, arguably the most important half) and just had to suck up that I was spending way more than I budgeted for cat food and getting way less. July has been a weird month with more month than money.

But luckily he stayed fed and preventing bladder crystals which is a huge deal. And now his real food finally arrived and I’m just blending the two bags together as best as I can. He seems fine.

Someone predicted in the Fall we would really see supply chain effects from the coronavirus lockdown and I’m genuinely curious if we will. I’m staying adaptable.

xoxo,

Mom

Groomers opened back up in Phase 2 and so grateful he finally got shaved! He’s so much more comfortable.

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2020-07-27

Aligning my days for productivity and minimal resistance

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , — Bevin @ 3:44 pm

(This post is part of a series of daily letters from me to my future children reporting from the emerging paradigm.)

Dear Kids:

Lately my focus has been on how to align my days for swift productivity and minimal resistance. Which has a lot to do with working smarter not harder and trying out new forms of energy.

First of all, I think most of our energy comes to us metaphysically and meditation and prayer are cornerstones of my life and routine. But even still, since the quarantine began I’ve been getting ultra tired early in the day. I think some of that is metaphysical, I process a lot for those around me and my energy healing clients. I also think this time is being called “The Great Pause” for a reason. It’s not necessarily about max productivity, rest is essential to productive work.

I learned recently that there’s no such thing as time management. Time is going to move along whether you’re “managing” it or not. What’s essential is priority management. That is much more doable and it helps you focus on those few things that truly do matter.

I have learned will power is burned off early in the day, and it’s when I feel sharpest, which is why I see my coaching and energy healing clients first thing in my day and why I try to get the things that require brain power done before 2pm.

I’m totally obsessed with physiology and how the way we move and fuel our bodies affects our experience and enjoyment of life. This stems back to my lifetime of dealing with depression. I get seasonal depression, I have regular genetic depression I can see all through my patriarchal line. (I do not know yet if you kids are genetically related to me or adopted, but I hope you don’t inherit a predisposition to depression or alcoholism. If you do I hope you learn from me how to align your self care so you don’t have to learn the same hard lessons I’ve had to!)

I have always known that dance helps me feel more joyful. In fact, the first thing I did when I was 19 years old and made the fateful decision that I wanted to “stop hating myself” (I had no language for self love, I did not yet understand or identify my depression) was to start doing dance aerobics again. I was using MTV’s The Grind workout on VHS during that era.

How lucky I was in that moment to have a vcr and tv in my dorm room and how wise I was to use dance to shift my perspective of life.

I study physiology for Fat Kid Dance Party because I want folks to have actionable, accessible tools to level up their experience in life. It’s also helpful for me! Not just the founder, I’m also a client!

In this season where I’m optimizing and adapting work efficiency I am working towards having my daily movement practice early in the morning. A wild feat for me since slow mornings are my jam and by the time I’m “ready” to move it’s hot and sunny outside. (Typically for me I move in the late afternoon/early evening.)

But it’s undoubtable that the earlier in the day I dance the more likely I am to be upbeat and dancey the rest of the day. And, oh, how satisfying life is when I feel like dancing.

We’ll see as I progress into daily morning movement how I do. Once I feel my energy flagging in the afternoon when I eventually do move it’s not with the same vigor I could give it in the morning.

I hope you never settle for good enough and keep working to get better and improve your experience of this one and only life you get to live.

xoxo,

Mom

My neighbor caught this while I was walking Biscuit Reynolds. While I don’t stand by this outfit choice for public consumption it was too cute not to share. (And that day I was part of a team putting woodchips down on our forest trail muddy bits and that early morning hauling and shoveling was great pep for the rest of my day.)

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2020-07-26

Zoom Domme

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: — Bevin @ 11:16 pm

(This post is part of a series of daily letters from me to my future children reporting from the emerging paradigm.)

Dear Kids:

The first text I read this morning was that your Aunt Rachael was in the hospital for tests. She has the Corona, so this was a perfect day to also just dive right into the Agape church service. So many prayers went out for her today!

She was thankfully discharged, chest pains were muscle spasms from all the coughing she does because the corona feels like knives in your lungs.

And then later tonight we were both on Frankie’s birthday zoom call. I didn’t even know if she’d make it because she was in the hospital today. When she used her zoom wrangling skills to keep the party moving that she uses with executives at her corporate job, I was just so impressed.

First of all, every group zoom needs a Zoom Domme to keep things flowing (or a femmecee, or what have you). Facilitation is key in group gatherings!

And second of all, what a miracle to see her in her competency when just 10 hours earlier I was genuinely afraid she would take a turn for the worse. The Goddess is good!!!

Never forget the power of prayer and to thank the Goddess for every miracle! And enjoy whatever season you’re in because it’s temporary.

xoxo,

Mom

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2020-07-24

I am so much happier with an iphone than my Google Pixel and it’s all about connection

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , — Bevin @ 10:29 pm

(This post is part of a series of daily letters from me to my future children reporting from the emerging paradigm.)

Dear Kids:

Your Aunt Rachael in Atlanta has the Corona. We’ve been in tight communication since before the pandemic thanks to Marco Polo, her polycule and my getting an iphone and being added to a group text thread.

Because of all of this newfangled communication–I know how careful she’s been! I’ve seen their polycule become a quarantine pod and I’ve seen them negotiate and talk about risk factors.

You can be ever so careful and one contact with one person outside your pod who said they were safe but forgot to mention dining outside at a cafe with co-workers… And now Rach is having trouble breathing, feels like an alien hijacked her body and can’t watch anything that makes her laugh too much because of the breathing.

I know that worry doesn’t do anything but rob the present of joy. So I do things: Praying. Seeing her whole and healed in my mind’s eye. Talking to other folks about wearing masks–I can’t believe there’s so much resistance to a very practical solution to disease spread.

I’ve been sending lots of energy healing her way. I’ve loved all the massive communication with all of her awesome polycule friends and loves. It’s been rad to know how she’s being supported. It helps from across the country to be that connected.

I stuck to android devices for the entirety of the iphone era. I just switched to the iphone in May when I moved into my trailer, the Lavender Queen. My Google pixel finally gave out and after all of my many years of exclusive android use I switched to the iphone.

The thing that’s most important in life are your people. I knew that having an iphone would make it easy to connect to folks. It’s so much harder to set up an appointment with someone I’m really close with to talk on facetime when you have to use a computer to get facetime.

I kept using android because it made business easier when I was a lawyer. I essentially had an office on my phone and the functionality was easier and better. But I have not been a practicing attorney for a few years now and I just absolutely love having a quick phone based facetime check in with the people I love. I can’t believe I waited this long!

And the imessage group text threads! We can post bitmoji stickers?? I feel like we’re a group of cartoons hanging out.

I’m still on a steep learning curve right now–iphone functionality is fiddly for me, but 2 months into having an iphone and I’m really appreciating it.

Never appreciated it more than a spontaneous facetime group from the imessage on day one of corona symptoms for Rach. And then spontaneous check ins via facetime so I could hear how she was doing and see her face. (She still looks amazing, and forever award winning cleavage.)

I was like, wow this tiny device has so much more connection to offer because of the people on it. And connection is the most important thing there is!

xoxo,

Mom

A camping collage from the Glowing Goddess Getaway couple’s retreat in 2019. Joshua Tree. Unforgettable weekend!

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2020-07-22

The Tidy Cats Breeze branded litter box pads are 500% better than the Amazon Basics pads

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , — Bevin @ 10:27 pm

(This post is part of a series of daily letters from me to my future children reporting from the emerging paradigm. Also all the links to Amazon on this earn me a tiny commission from whatever you buy when you enter Amazon through that link. Thanks for helping me run this blog!)

Dear Kids:

I remain obsessed with my cat litter box, the Tidy Cats Breeze system. I don’t know if there will ever be a system that tops it, but I’m ready to know. I hope when you’re adults and ready for cat companions that there has been an even better litter box invented.

Last year I got excited when I bought these generic “Amazon Basic” pads for the box. They are far cheaper than the branded Tidy Cats Breeze box pads. Every penny counts when you’re an entrepreneur, but it was scarcity mindset that kept me using the pads when I first moved into the Lavender Queen, my trailer.

Now that I live in a very small space, I can assure you, the branded Tidy Cats Breeze box pads are far superior.

In my castle in Los Angeles, I had the cat box inside a big cabinet with a hole cut out. (My mom, your Nanny, made it and gave it to me when she downsized.) I never smelled the pee on the pee pad with the Amazon Basics, but I did need to change it more frequently.

In the fairy cottage I sublet when I first moved to the Olympic Peninsula, I had the litter box in a little vestibule off the hallway. Didn’t notice a smell often but every now and again I would smell cat pee and spray Nature’s Miracle “around” the floor to “refresh” the environment.

When I moved into the Lavender Queen and the most logical place to keep the litter box was in my small bedroom, it would smell like pee in like 3 days. I kept “refreshing” the carpet and it took me about three weeks to realize that it was the pee pads–they didn’t trap odor at all!

I knew the solution was likely switching back to the original pee pad. But I just let scarcity mentality rule for awhile and I suffered! Why??? It’s a little over $3 a week for pellets and branded pee pads. $12 a month is still less than I was paying in actual clay litter that tracks all over my house. It would be unbearable in this tiny space to have to sweep like that, I still just pick up the pellets when they get out of the box and toss them back in.

I lived with that cat pee smell way longer than I should have! I deserve to have an environment that smells awesome–nothing like pee! I want anyone coming into my space to only know I have a cat because they met him!

Anyway, I give myself props for finally getting around to buying the branded Tidy Cats Breeze pads . I changed the pad after one week and never smelled pee! They truly trap odor!

Kids, I hope you never settle for an environment that doesn’t support you thriving.

xoxo,

Mom

I’m learning a lot about boundaries living with my cat during quarantine.

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2020-07-21

Feel the fear, do it anyway

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , — Bevin @ 3:01 pm

(This post is part of a series of daily letters from me to my future children reporting from the emerging paradigm.)

Dear Kids:

I just got really scared to send an email “putting myself out there” and decided to take a break and shift my focus.

Fear, discomfort, and awkwardness are all symptoms of resistance. If there’s anything I can tell you about living your best life it’s that feeling those things and doing it anyway is the key.

I say this at every Fat Kid Dance Party class, we cheer for awkward because life begins at the end of your comfort zone. Plus, it’s so much fun to hear someone holler out “I feel awkward” and cheer them for doing it anyway. It feels super awkward to do a thing for the first time and we experience that a lot when we do new movement modalities.

I used to have a sticker on the back of my phone that said “action cures fear” which is totally true. Either you’re doing the thing or you’re thinking about doing the thing, creating more resistance.

It’s like jumping into a pool when you know it’ll be cold and uncomfortable until your body temperature regulates to the water. The faster you go the faster it feels better.

When I was producing nightlife shows and a performer would confess to me that they had stage fright, I always said this: Your nervousness says that you care about your audience. That’s a good thing. Go out there and love on them and give them a great time.

So now that I’ve done this pep talk for myself by talking this out with you, I’m going to go sit down and get this email written and breathe and send it. I hope you always walk swiftly into your fear and love on people.

xoxo,

Bevin

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2020-07-19

Today was a harder day in quarantine

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: — Bevin @ 8:48 pm

(This post is part of a series of daily letters from me to my future children reporting from the emerging paradigm.)

Dear Kids:

I took a break today to go play ping pong with my mom. She bought a moveable table set from a facebook ad over the winter (dreaming of summer days and ping pong) and we inaugurated it at her birthday party two weeks ago. I figured I’d keep making her vision a reality and up my mirth on a day where mirth felt a little hard to access.

It feels like time is hurtling by. March of this year felt like the longest month ever because our entire paradigm kept shifting. Word of the virus, word of a potential shut down, word of shutting down, word of really shutting down. In my mind this all began March 15th.

It was scary but seemed doable. I was grateful for all the emotional maturity and stability I had developed in the past year. 2019 was uncertainty central and covid quarantine only brought more uncertainty. I had a strong routine and had been making great strides and decisions towards my emotional stability.

I remember thinking that by July things would be opening back up. I don’t think that’s actually incorrect–I was able to get Biscuit Reynolds groomed on Friday because they are phase 2 re-opening and Washington hasn’t had to roll back to phase 1 like California.

I definitely thought July would be like, more fully open than it is. And since this second wave of covid has come on so strong I feel like this is the time everyone’s most vulnerable. I opted out of a very tempting weekend away with some dear ones of mine simply because I think it feels too risky to fly commercial.

I did leave it open if I find someone with a private jet to loan me. Truly, I feel safe in her far remote neck of the woods in the desert, just as I feel safer up here in so far north I can see Canada from where I’m sitting right now.

But also. If time is going by so swiftly, I can probably wait until Fall. I miss my friends and hugs and lounging in floaties on the grass smoking grass with babes at the Glowing Goddess Getaways. In my alternative pre-planned 2020 I would be on tour right now with Biscuit Reynolds in a Class B RV going to GGGs and stopping at friends between and having a couple different weeks as a teacher at girls self esteem camps (I had booked one in Maine and I figured I could find at least one more).

Instead, I’m bringing summer camp vibes to all of my weekly online aerobics class subscribers by filming aerobics in the woods.

I’m so wildly grateful I live full time essentially at summer camp. When I lived in the city I always felt like I needed regular recharging in nature. Now that I know what it’s like to have that battery always full I’m like, okay I’ll dip into cities sometimes but really I gotta get back and look for new mushrooms in the forest.

I have some grief about what I thought 2020 was going to be, and I am also doing my very best to appreciate where I am and what I am doing instead. Everyday can feel like vacation if you let it–this is why I have been working on my emotional stability and maturity. But, even still, today was kind of a rough and grumpy day. I am segment intending my way to an early night’s sleep.

One thing I can always count on: things always feel better in the morning.

xoxo,

Mom

I haven’t bothered to look up what this Christmas plant is called; I call it what it looks like. The Goddess is so good to make the foliage perfect for Christmas in July in this blessedly cool forest. Today was the hottest it’s been all summer at 74 degrees.

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2020-07-18

Moving towards life or away from life

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , — Bevin @ 11:07 pm

(This post is part of a series of daily letters from me to my future children reporting from the emerging paradigm.)

Dear Kids:

I read an incredible article by adrienne maree brown yesterday. Incredible. If you’re not my kids 25 years from now reading this and cruising this blog go read it right now.

She talked about life, and whether we are choosing to move towards it or away from it.

I immediately thought of this unmasked 20 something year old woman marching through the grocery store the other day. She had a big Jesus is my Savior sticker on her car I noticed when I saw her in the parking lot. I wondered if she thought Jesus was her cloth face covering.

I was again pondering the mask vs no mask trend and if it’s coming from a place of not really caring if other people live or die or not caring if they themselves live or die. If some mask refusal is really about a low-key death wish or a low-key murder wish for people who don’t value others.

We already know the disproportionate effect covid is having on Black and Latinx folks. I have still only ever seen white folks online or in person refusing to wear a mask. Maybe it’s murderous white supremacy?

She talked about cancel culture and what’s toxic about it. According to brown in her article, cancel culture has gotten especially rampant during Covid.

A friend of mine asked my advice today about a cancel culture issue she’s potentially facing. The best thing to come out of my experience with cancel culture is being able to help people I care about navigate the waters of cancel culture.

My work in the world is about helping people get free mentally and physically. Understanding how to think about a call out and cancelation is really helpful when you’re navigating it. Mental fortitude and understanding what’s happening when a bunch of people are coming for you on the internet is key. I’ll be giving everyone who asks my perspective on cancelation a link to this article.

I sincerely hope that by the time you’re reading this that we’ve moved so far away from cancel culture that you need me to explain what that means.

And I’ll send you to this epic, brilliant video from Contrapoints explaining what cancel culture is and how it works. I hope it’s a dusty relic in 2045!

Always be too busy building something beautiful to tear anyone else down. And remember that no person is disposable.

xoxo,

Mom

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2020-07-17

Socializing in Covid Times

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: — Bevin @ 2:02 pm

(This post is part of a series of daily letters from me to my future children reporting from the emerging paradigm.)

Dear Kids:

Yesterday was a delight–in many ways I found Festival Magic in quarantine that typically I only experience when I’m at an in person festival experience.

First, what’s a festival? I would define it as a gathering that creates its own culture. In my experience it’s a multi-day, sleepover outdoor type experience. Somehow integrating human connection and connection to nature.

Early experiences of this were at sleep away camp. Being at camp was the only place I ever felt I truly belonged and, consequently, that I could ever be my true self.

As an adult I began going to a women’s music festival every year and fell in love with the culture and connection. Seeing the same faces every year (thousands of women gathered), growing up alongside folks, having the most fun in a space that felt safe and nurturing for me. That was so special.

In 2018 I started teaching at the Glowing Goddess Getaways, a women’s self care cannabis retreat. They are only 2 days long but really pack a festival intimacy.

Something wonderful that happens for me in festival land is wandering along a path and experiencing connections and falling into new groups of folks. Your whole day can be planned out and suddenly you’re just making new friends and going on an adventure.

I definitely didn’t think this kind of thing could happen virtually but I came across it yesterday and I’m so grateful!

A self care practice I started this Winter was making a connection with 3 friends a day. This involves a lot of work to make happen–I reach out to a ton of friends in order to get calls lined up. I’ve also found connecting with old camp and festival friends to be especially nourishing. Even if I don’t know them well we share memories of a favorite place.

Each of us sharing intimacy with a place creates an intimacy between us. I happily hop on phone calls and virtual cups of tea with friends and connect beyond time and space. It’s so cool.

Yesterday I finally got a chance to catch up with Lisa, CEO and co-founder of Tokeativity. Tokeativity is a global feminist community for active cannabis consumers. As someone who works in the intersection of cannabis and self care, this was a great connection (had three people suggest I connect with her) and she happens to be a friend from my old Festival days!

Lisa and I maybe had two conversations in person at Festival but I recognized her and was excited to hear more about Tokeativity! She invited me to a 7PM Toking Hour with the Seattle chapter so I could connect with the local leaders and see what it was all about.

I was delighted! Breathing exercises, mild yoga, dance breaks, an ASL lesson, smiling smoking women from mostly Seattle (also the Bay Area, PDX and Alaska!) And afterwards we shifted into an after party lounge so we could connect and get to know each other.

It so happens on my calendar after this party I was scheduled to have a phone call with Miranda, another friend from Festival who also knows Lisa. (She was one of the three different folks who told me to connect to her!) Miranda happened to be on the Toking Hour!

She texted me and suggested we just keep hanging out in the video chat room with everyone. It was like “running into each other on the path” and she was so right!

Eventually it was just the three of us in the chat room and we burned it down for hours, just chatting, connecting, doing some psychic readings, I got into both of their astrological birth charts.

We all reluctantly left at 11:30PM because me and Lisa both still had work to do but I felt SO nourished. Truly, like festival energy.

It seems unlikely to find that special magic spontaneous hangout person to person energy from online spaces and yet it exists. I remember an Alice in Wonderland feeling when I’d wander a path and find a party, and then wander off and find something else going on.

I’m still buzzing with all that social energy! I’m an ambivert which means I recharge either alone or with the right energy from the right people. This was incredible.

I’m so grateful to Lisa for her platform of Tokeativity to make something like that possible. I’m so grateful to Miranda who I’ve loved connecting to about everything witchy, feminist, healing and Grateful Dead (she’s an original Dead Head). And I am grateful for my diligent self care practice that had me reach out to both of them during quarantine to connect! What magic!

I hope you prioritize and treasure your friendships! Nourishing relationships are truly the greatest form of wealth you’ll ever know.

xoxo,

Mom

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2020-07-14

The littlest slivers of joy can be a big deal if you let them

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: — Bevin @ 9:43 pm

(This post is part of a series of daily letters from me to my future children reporting from the emerging paradigm.)

Dear Kids:

Friends in the hospital for non covid illnesses. “Traveling right now could be lethal.”

California just rolled back to phase 1 reopening.

Feels like everything changes by the minute. More hard news… And even still. I found some real joy.

Tonight, after I finished teaching my aerobics class in the woods; I ended up losing all track of time just walking and dancing and enjoying the splendor of the forest path I walk every day.

Somehow it felt new again because I brought a level of delight and enthusiasm to it.

Mindfulness practice has helped me segment experiences so life doesn’t have to feel like an endless bummer when life is lifing at me.

Look for moments of joy in whatever little things you can that’s the best stuff. The slivers of ordinary glee.

Xoxo,

Mom

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2020-07-12

Life is Lifing at you

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: — Bevin @ 7:50 pm

(This post is part of a series of daily letters from me to my future children reporting from the emerging paradigm.)

Dear Kids:

Life is always going to life at you.

It took me until about a year ago to realize that I frequently assumed emotionally that once I got through this next struggle that I would cease to struggle or experience problems. Pretty much, there’s always something.

But, since I’ve survived all of my hardest days, and life hasn’t stopped lifing, that’s what motivates me to get judicious about what I consider a “problem.”

My inner people pleaser and controller deeply wants to identify problems at every turn. Criticism as a form of love is an ancestral pattern I am ending in my generation, which centers from my thought life.

Asking myself, “How important is this?” when I perceive a problem or someone else wants to make something a problem. The real stuff is what life is lifing at you (friend in the hospital, family member in hospice, job lay-off, rugs pulled out from under you) and the other stuff is a distraction from your purpose.

Everyone’s purpose is different, everyone’s bullshit threshold is different. But the less you get way laid by it the more peaceful life can become.

Find the sweetness in the hard times, the joy in the moment, the peace of nature. Stargaze whenever possible, especially when you are going through a tough time. Cannabis and psalm 65 helped me a lot late last year after seismic changes in my life. I just needed hope and to believe it wasn’t the end and it helped me keep going.

Today I’m thinking about life lifing because of a lot of life lifing to folks around me. I’m interacting with other people asking myself “How can I bring value to this person,” because I don’t know how much life is lifing at them. It’s helping me stay really kind, during this pandemic where fear of covid wants to create a fear between people.

Super odd time. I hope you take me up on stargazing, and I hope you wish on every shooting star you see.

xoxo,

Mom

Up at 9am to help mom unload a full truck bed of alder chips. She does a lot of epic garden projects.

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