When I was in Boston at the beginning of summer, my taxi driver was asking all the places I have lived (reciprocally, I was asking him about the stops on his life path). “I lived in Philly for four years, NYC for 12, LA for almost 4 and now Washington for almost 7.” His response? Sounds like it’s time to move.

I laughed about it because it kept coming up. Different friends were getting psychic messages that I was moving. That same weekend my friend Manduh gave me a psychic reading and my Grandmother came through. She said my mother’s choice to move away from the Land (Mom decided in May, moved in July) would “Make my life choices easier.” And that I was moving somewhere “More convenient.”

At the time I rejected it. I love where I live. The Olympic Peninsula is heavenly. The forest meets the sea! So much coastline! Eagles! Orcas! The Land I have been living on has a water view! And private forest to walk! My neighborhood is mostly organized lesbians! Some of my neighbors are Mean Girls but most of them are GREAT helpful humans and a joy to live near!

I genuinely think Sequim is Secret Sedona–full of energy vortexes. Since I have been house/pet sitting in the area I have experienced how cool and healing the energy is in other little pockets.

Sometimes a big life change needs our attention in a slow roll not all at once. But it does sometimes take on a life of its own and that is what is happening for me.

My BFF Rachael has a boundary that she won’t live with someone until she knows them for a year. We have known one another for 25 years and I have always wanted to get to live with her! She and her spouse have been looking for a house for a long time and the offer that finally went through (after like 4 or 5 offers on other houses, and three tries on this house) was on a dream home for her and for me! It has a Bevin sized apartment on the lower level!

Her spouse actually started with the “Can Bevin move here?” over the summer while they were still under contract. As a former Real Estate Attorney, I KNOW your house isn’t your house til you close. At first I said I would come out for 6 weeks, then 2 months, then 6 months. Wintering in Atlanta while keeping my place here so I could be a “snowbird.” Sounded so fun. Kept sending recipes to Rachael to put on our what we want to cook together bucket list.

And then not quite 2 weeks ago I got an eviction notice! I have lived on my lot for 6.5 years! No idea my landladies were selling. But that was the decision point. Some other stuff has happened that has firmed up my decision to leave and that is another story for another day.

I feel wanted and welcomed to a new place in a gorgeous house! I get to have a household with Rach & her incredible spouse J. There is a creek and forest on the 1.7 acre property!

Sometimes the closing doors are the ones that tell you it is time to go towards the ones that are opening. I am grateful I finally have the groundedness to be willing to see what is true and in front of me. How often in my past have I explained away closing doors because I didn’t feel safe seeing the truth?

I am excited to see what life has in store for me in Atlanta. I visited for the first time January 2006 and have been countless times since. It is my “hometown of choice.” I am so sad to be leaving the Olympic Peninsula–the forest here is one of the great loves of my life! I will miss my communities here and my friends so much. I am great at staying in touch, and I have enough friends that I can come visit for a couple months surfing guest rooms.

So that is my Big! Life! News! I am moving to Atlanta. I leave on October 25th.

I am putting everything I will keep in a uhaul pod and my car. Everything else must go! I feel so sad about putting usable things in the trash! I hope it will mostly just be easy to rehome the things that helped me live my life here.

I need so much help to make this happen. Three ways I need help:

1. Prayers and good thoughts. Would you take 3 seconds and visualize me smoothly making decisions about what to keep and what to release. My safe drive across the country. Easily finding people to rehome my things! The money & overall prosperity I need to pay for this drive and move coming to me easily! (I am borrowing money for the uhaul pod but def need the flow to be ON.) My next steps glowing brightly for me!
2. Book a session with me, or otherwise support my work! I am taking a slow pace across the country, sitting still in Tuscon and Austin where I have lots of people to visit with (and will have time for client sessions). I offer psychic medium readings, astrology, business brainstorms and health consultations! You can book for now or book a session for later. (Patreon supporters get a discount on sessions based on their tier.) Or give a session as a gift. Or otherwise support my work through the links at the bottom of this post. THANK YOU.
3. Local pals! I need help ! Moving bins from my storage shed to my lot, going through boxes and shrinking my life down to a Uhaul pod! Can you lend arms, a truck, or a hang out? Can you take stuff to donate? Can you bring me and or my helpers a meal? I am doing most of this work Mon-Thurs Oct 12-15 and then have the following week to finish clearing out and cleaning the RV I have been living in. I can use all the moral and physical support possible!

Thank you for reading this far! Thanks for tuning into my blog. Thanks for being my friend. Thanks for caring about my life changes! I am bravely stepping into this next chapter and I am only able to do that because of help and I appreciate all of it, deeply.

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One of the wildest parts of being in my forties is my massive memory bank. Everyone is different, of course, but I am struck by what ends up being a core memory that I don’t lose to time and the distractions of current life challenges.

I waited what seemed like forever to start dating (a post on being a “late bloomer” to come). I was a Junior in college and 19 years young when I fell for a smart, hilarious, deep Scorpio skateboarder. We were already in love and dating but hadn’t had a “date” yet and went to see the 1998 hit Practical Magic.

I am a Scorpio Moon and Venus and if you don’t know astrology that means I am deeply romantic and the loudest way I love is to pay attention and really seek to know someone. That relationship was only four months and the heartbreak over it took at least double or triple the time to release. (“Did they break your heart or break your expectations?” I would learn to ask myself later.)

I have fondly remembered that Practical Magic date for many years, count that movie as one of my favorites and when faced with the opportunity to see the sequel I got in my head about “making it special.”

I am definitely the kind of person who will see a movie in the theaters alone. But this felt like it was going to be noteworthy. Like how did I spend my one wild and precious first time seeing Practical Magic 2 the 28 years later sequel!

I started to spiral about it.

I long to be the kind of person who can tell myself “It’s not that deep” but I am incredibly sentimental and it is that deep, to me.

I haven’t been on a proper romantic date in nearly a decade and it still baffles me that in all my nearly seven years in the Pacific Northwest I haven’t even found a lesbian tech divorcee to hook up with! (Dating is hard in any time of life but I think this middle part is especially rough, only magnified by *sweeping arm gesture* facts and circumstances of the 2020s. I am not alone!)

While I know my worthiness has nothing to do with whether I ever date again, it feels tender!

In addition to that, nothing seems to be flourishing the way I had hoped career wise and that is tender to me, too! My therapist would ask me to ask myself “is this true? What are the facts?”

My mental and physical health are both excellent and that has been the primary focus in these last few years. I tried “success” in ways that didn’t support my health and wellness and I had to redefine success. The emotional work to redefine success is a slower process than the intellectual work!

If I have learned anything from slowing down mental health affecting spirals it is to focus on what is working and be gentle with what is not working.

So even though I spiraled, I called a support person, talked it out and most importantly, cried it out! I had a tantrum, called her, cried a bunch and actually felt way better the next day. About everything.

Sometimes there isn’t a solution that comes we just need to release the Feels and then keep going. Radical acceptance and plausibility defiant optimism are my aspirational attitudes. A solutions mindset is somewhere in that venn diagram.

Post-cathartic meltdown AND a good night’s sleep, I looked up our local drive-in (it is FORESTED and VINTAGE and TEN BUCKS) and Practical Magic was playing there Sunday on opening weekend. I texted all the witches I know locally and one of my friends came! She brought devils club and chaga chai tea in a thermos! She brought snacks, her hubby and dog in their van. We sat on an inflatable couch with a portable radio to hear the movie. It was the perfect temperature outside to wear a blanket hoodie and use one of my friend’s blankets on my knees.

The drive-in had CROWS that were hollering as I drove in and got settled. Because we were outside of the car on the inflatable bench my friend thought ahead to blow up and put in back of the van I got to watch the sky and the clouds broke to reveal stars before the end of the movie. (I loved the movie and it does have a slow series of scenes a couple times towards the middle end. That was a fun time to gaze up and watch the Goddess do her thing in the sky.)

I have a cute pic with my friend from that night. It is a forever memory. The movie is about sisterhood and choosing our sisters and I loved that I saw it with a friend on a sweet date and we even wore witch hats! And drank literal medicine from the same forest we were watching the movie in!

I can’t wait to see this movie again and watch it every year like I do Practical Magic!

Also have you seen Rachael’s new house?

If you want to hear about my first love story, I spilled my guts about it on a private podcast for my Patreon members!

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This blog post is entirely my opinion and is in no way legal advice or information. Hire an attorney that 1. you trust (take a pause and listen to your gut) and 2. has expertise / experience in the field (represented at least ten paid clients on the same type of issue you are seeking counsel about) to help you determine your particular course of action when presented with an NDA.

Over my four decades on the planet I have noticed that every time I have been presented with a Non Disclosure Agreement (NDA) or have talked to friends who have signed NDAs, the resulting experience involved emotional or mental abuse. Occasional false imprisonment!

Wild to say that but the pattern seems clear to me.

Multiple times I have spent four figures on business or media coaching programs. Typically a couple of people in my program had received big settlements for situations I didn’t get to hear about but that clearly were causing them anguish that was only amplified by the communication stifled by the NDAs attached to the settlement.

When you’re in a situation where damages have happened and you just want it to be over with, often you don’t think through the consequences of signing away your right to own your story.

As a Reiki Master, one of the first things I do in treatment for a client is to clear their chakras. It is pretty typical for me to find the throat chakra blocked. While simple for me to clear, the physical and emotional symptoms of a blocked throat chakra can be really difficult. When the root cause of the throat chakra blockage isn’t resolved it will just continue to come back!

So much of trauma healing involves owning your story and writing it out, telling it to a stone and releasing it to a moving body of water (that one works well), talking to someone, etc…

I cannot reduce trauma healing to a paragraph but for the sake of this article let us agree that stifling your ability to self express manifests in the mind, spirit or body who will always keep the score. The potential suffering you are agreeing to is not laid out in an NDA.

I love to ask folks in my aerobics class when we are doing a chakra based visioning of a dream life when we get to the throat chakra “What would it feel like to feel fully self expressed?” because it is such a pivotal part of being a human on the planet. Certain things can only be expressed through you individually and if you have something you cannot talk about it can eat you alive.

I was tricked into signing an NDA by another attorney when I was in practice because I was anxious to begin a job. When I am anxious, my nervous system isn’t allowing me access to my full intuition. It was a mistake. I am glad that the experience didn’t last very long but the toll on my mental health in that work environment was really intense. That attorney has and continues to reap what they sowed (both of them, the attorney who tricked me and the attorney the NDA protected) and I wish them the life they deserve.

I came across a copy of it later after I had been fired / quit and realized what I had signed and remembered what I was told it was when I signed it. Anyway, fool me once… it will spark in me an ongoing distrust of the NDA as a tool that only supports folks who have abusive behavior to hide.

I used to think, okay maybe never an NDA but in the instance of working for a fantastic artist you love who is making work that needs to have an element of surprise! Maybe that is the exception.

Then I made friends with a man whose husband worked for the most famous Virgo pop star on the planet. I was surprised he wasn’t a fan of hers and it turned out that the husband’s experience working for her involved at least a bit of false imprisonment overseas, poor communication and being stuck someplace without being able to communicate with home. And not being able to talk about the experience afterwards!

I didn’t sign an NDA, I didn’t get info from someone who signed the NDA and the story is vague but I trust it. Sounds like it is probably worth really taking a long pause and meditating on whether or not it is worth it to sign an NDA even for an artist you love who is making work you long to be part of.

A friend who worked for Dolly Rebecca Parton said she referred to NDAs as “just a piece of paper” and preferred to trust out loyalty over time with behavior. (Trust what people DO not what they say they will do.) Dolly was a Capricorn sun, Virgo Moon & Rising, Mercury in Capricorn. I trust her NDA practices as a model for my own life.

Taking a pause and checking my intuition is the wisdom I apply to all aspects of my life. For my calendar it isn’t just that I have “availability.” I pass the project, event or client work through my intuition, and through how I would feel to do the thing. My peace is expensive.

If presented with a document don’t just sign it. Take a long pause (and if they won’t wait for your pause consider “Why are these people trying to rush me and what do they gain from rushing me?”) and consult your intuition. Most of intuition development is just self trust.

Let’s talk about red flags for a minute!

Red flag to me just means slow down and consider.

I came up with a rule in dating when I was just 23 years young that has served me well. Seven red flags is too many.

I don’t need to get to seven red flags to know that a situation isn’t a good one for me any longer. But I do know that I need to be consulting my intuition the whole way (and if I can’t seem to access my intuition I turn to people I trust including psychics) because my spirit team has access to way more information than I do in the conscious world.

In hindsight, over my lifetime, my intuition has a 99.9% rate of being correct. (Once they wanted me to drive in a snowstorm to an Imbolc ceremony and I just pulled off to a parking lot to meditate on making the trip and figured out a way to participate remotely instead of risking the drive.)

Of course, a lot of lessons come from needing to learn one way or another and some people only understand the language of pain. If that is you, godspeed. Sign whatever and experience the consequences.

But if you are out there considering an NDA, pray on it! I always think about how much of those settlements those women were spending on trying to feel better from the experiences they weren’t allowed to talk about.

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