I was on LinkedIn (are we pals there–let’s link up!) and their robot overlords asked me to answer the question how folks can move from an internship to paid work* in event planning. I think this advice could apply to any industry! And I didn’t want to let LinkedIn profit off my advice if I could host it here on my blog!

Hi! I’m Bevin! I want to be a good influence on you! How can I help? If you have ideas for blog posts or podcast topics you’d like my take on–send me an email! Fatkiddanceparty at gmail dot com!


I like Steve Martin’s advice “Be so great they can’t take their eyes off you.” This is a good strategy for social media, branding, content creation and workplace!

My favorite entrepreneurial content creator is Myleik Teele & she says “The extra mile is not crowded.” When you show what you have available at an internship, make genuine friends, are collaborative, people will think of you for future opportunities.

Also, read the book How to Win Friends and Influence People. It should be called “How to shave off your rough spots so people you love know you love them.” We are RARELY taught how to connect well with others and people do business with folks they like!

I have hired interns to do paid work, I have also been an intern who got hired!

*I went from an unpaid internship at the California Attorney General’s press office to a paid staff member based on my work habit and people skills. I genuinely regret not putting off law school to keep working in that administration because number one it was fun work for me and I didn’t realize how rare and valuable having fun at work can be!

Also two I might have finally understood that the life experience of attorneys is not the life experience I wanted to have! I did not understand that lawyers have four times the national rate of suicide/addiction and have a higher likelihood of divorce. I treat regrets as my teachers and now know to pay attention and cultivate experiences that bring me joy and satisfaction!


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Recipe first story later.

My Mom’s Enchiladas Recipe

Crowd pleasing and rich!
Course Main Course
Cuisine Mexican
Servings 12 enchiladas

Ingredients
  

  • 1.3 pounds grass fed hamburger
  • 24 oz jack and cheddar cheeses (more or less, depending on preference)
  • 2.25 oz chopped olives
  • 3 cans enchilada sauce my mom likes the old el paso brand because she needs it to be less spicy so it's more of a crowd pleaser
  • 1 dozen corn tortillas
  • Vegetable oil for frying tortillas (or your frying oil of choice)

Instructions
 

  • Fry hamburger with some garlic, onion and chili powder (like taco seasoning)
  • Scoop hamburger out with a slotted spoon so the grease drains off, put cooked hamburger in a bowl.
  • Add about 2/3 of the cheese (16oz) and the olives to the cooked hamburger and mix them.
  • Add 1/3 of a can of enchilada sauce to the hamburger cheese mixture.
  • Lightly fry the corn tortillas in vegetable oil or your frying oil of choice.
  • Rest fried corn tortillas on paper towels (create layers) to drain the oil.
  • Time to assemble the enchiladas! In the baking dish you're going to bake in, pour enchilada sauce on the floor of the pan.
    Then take the tortilla, slap it into the bottom of the pan and flip over (mom says "You're gonna get gooky").
    Put a a couple dollops of the hamburger mixture in the middle of the tortilla, enough to fill the enchilada to an inch from the end. 2.5 tablespoons or so? You'll figure out what fits well when you roll the first couple up.
    Keep adding sauce as you go along because the tortillas gobble up the sauce.
  • Roll up the enchiladas so the tortilla edge part is on the bottom of the pan. a 9×13 pan will hold a dozen. 8 down one side and 4 going the opposite direction.
  • Cover the enchiladas with the rest of the cheese. If you're not baking tiil the next day don't put the rest of the sauce on it til the next day. If you're transporting it before cooking bring the sauce with you and pour it on right before it goes in the oven.
  • Bake at 350 for 30-40 minutes.
Here’s a cute picture of me and my mom from my most recent birthday! Thanks for giving me birth and for letting me share your enchiladas recipe!

My mom made this recipe on special occasions when she needed to feed a crowd. A crowd pleaser and total labor of love. I didn’t even try to guess the time on prep for this recipe but last time mom made 12 for just her, me and Pat (her spouse) she said the prep clocked in at 3 hours.

Here’s the pic of the before baked product–seriously if you love enchiladas this will be a delight. I’ve had many in my lifetime but nothing touches my mom’s!

A goal of mine with this blog is to help anyone out there who doesn’t have family resources get a leg up on life. My life has improved immeasurably from the wisdom passed to me by my queer family.

My mom is super generous with her recipes and for those out there who don’t have family recipes for whatever reason, we are passing this along to you!

Check out my recipe tag for other recipes and poke around the search function to find other topics I might have shared about in the past sixteen (!!) years this blog has existed.


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It’s 4/20 somewhere and this weekend we are having it on a Saturday! I wanted to share with you a wise question to ask that is both FUN life of the party vibes AND a good reminder to check in with yourself and regulate your consumption!

Hi! I’m Bevin! I want to be a good influence on you and I don’t want you to get uncomfortably high!

I’m posting this on 4/19, Bicycle Day, and this question is as much for psychedelics as for cannabis!

I started saying this at Glowing Goddess Getaway events when I would be stationed at the Glow Bar helping goddesses decide how they wanted to consume cannabis. Being a loud gal, I hollered out “Are you as high as you want to be?” as an enthusiastic way to remind folks they came to unwind.

But it’s also a good reminder for yourself to actually set an intention for how high you want to be BEFORE you consume. You can always get more high, it’s really hard to get less high!

I have been a “more is more” consumer, and as someone with an addictive personality I am always checking in with my relationship with cannabis as medicine and as stress relief. Sometimes it makes me more anxious than I want to be! Sometimes I can’t afford to be incapacitated, or I have responsibilities that need my attention (either later that day or the next day when I don’t want to be hazy).

What’s magical about setting aside time for relaxation and celebration is getting to be in a safe environment and let plant medicine mellow you out and inspire revelations.

I like shouting “Are you as high as you wanna be?!” to raise the vibe on a celebration. I like asking it peacefully as I pass someone a joint and ask if they want it. It’s charming and a good question.

If you do get more high than you want to be here are my tips:

*EAT. Drink water. Eat some more. It helps metabolize the cannabis.

*LAY DOWN: Go find your bed and get under the covers hopefully it’s really nearby. (My fav part of camping with friends is my bed is really nearby and I can nap and come back to the gathering.)

*BREATHE: Soothing breaths are in through the nose filling the belly and a longer exhale through the mouth. Three breaths like this are something I use all the time.

*Charcoal pills! These are great to have on hand! Activated charcoal is useful for so many natural remedies and helping you digest cannabis is one of them! Here’s a link to one brand, if you buy anything from Amazon after using my link (not just what I link to) I get a 3% bonus from Amazon’s profits. Of course I hope you shop small and local first but if you were gonna support Amazon anyway, thanks for using my link!

I’ve been smoking way less the last six months because it turns out smoking hurts my throat and I want to be able to teach aerobics for the rest of my life! But I still love the medicine and use non psychoactive ingestion to prevent Covid-19 and other harm reduced ways of consuming.

Sitting by a fire with friends, enjoying a joint and looking at the hummingbirds is a deep occasional pleasure for me and I hope you get out and enjoy nature and cannabis together if you can!


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