In March I went on a Spring Equinox road trip to a camping event with my sisterhood. I got to teach aerobics AND choreograph and implement a lantern dance to a Taylor Swift song in a blooming orchard. And then we had a star family fly by (my podcast episode 146 has the whole story and the videos). It was life changing.

Hi! I’m Bevin (and my Feline Overlord, Biscuit Reynolds)! I want to be a good influence on you! There is nothing I love more than sitting in a comfy camp chair listening to live music outside with my pals in the summertime! I believe we didn’t incarnate on Earth to fix a broken world we came here to create the world of our dreams!

On my way home I was feeling the spirit to listen to one of my favorite late 90s double cds, the Lilith Fair compilation. It still holds up! I saw the Lilith Fair only once in 1999 at the Shoreline in San Jose and had to take a forbidden day off from Girl Scout Camp in order to do it. Worth it to scream “I love you Leisha Hailey!” when the Murmurs were on the side stage. (I was a passionate 20 year old.)

I posted about the double cd and one of my beloved aerobics class Regulars suggested I do a Lilith Fair theme class! I said “challenge accepted!” and have now taught that class a few times!

I kept it true to the original line-up during the 1997-1999 tours. I polled my Patreon members for their top artists and picked songs that represented their favorites. Erykah Badu, Queen Latifah, Missy Elliot, Indigo Girls, and The Chicks were the top choices but I slid Sarah McLachlan in there because it was her original idea. Doing a theme class is lots of work for me but I love the artistic challenge to adapt or create choreography and the longer I teach aerobics (going on seven years!) the better I get!

And then my wonderful ADHD brain went into hyperfocus about Lilith Fair and lamenting that I wouldn’t ever get to teach aerobics on a side stage at a Lilith Fair. But why not? In this political climate, where we are already having body autonomy rights stripped right and left and experiencing a violent culture war, we actually really need it.

First of all, I’m a fan of camping and festivals. I like the culture created in communities that exist in temporary times and places. When I worked at Girl Scout camp and then later at feminist festivals, I learned how a lot of women live 51 weeks a year waiting for that 1 week (or however long) at the place that fed them spiritually.

Once I observed the area 51 phenomenon I declared to myself that I would work hard to create a life that didn’t feel like it needed escape, but I also see the value in temporary utopia. Nothing is ever perfect and using porta potties as your primary bathroom for however long is not utopic, but I always think when I’m using a porta potty it’s because I’m outside (which I love) having a good time with my friends (which I also love).

I let my beloved neurodivergent big dreamer brain imagine what was possible. If Lilith Fair revived as a Lilith Festival, we could do three nights a piece at maybe four venues around the continent. There are existing festival locations with camping and facilities for tens of thousands of people to converge. The most environmentally sound thing to do is to use existing infrastructure.

In addition to the curated festival line-up, I feel strongly there needs to be curated culture in order to achieve our maximum glow up.

I like to call my career path “Camp Counselor who has finally found her way in this wild world” because I am very much a Julie the Cruise Director personality type. (If you ever dig into the archives of this blog you’ll see how much culture I was producing and participating in NYC during my time. Now I’ve got a self care pace.)

Teaching at lots of retreats, festivals and camps for the past 30 years, I’ve seen how vital it is to instill and foster a culture. Culture in the sense that I’m referring to here is the beliefs, social forms and material traits of a social group. Much like a sourdough starter the culture of an event can allow everyone to rise to that maximal joyful group experience.

Especially among women, so few of us were raised to really love and appreciate other women. As we heard from the wise tween in the Barbie movie, men are socialized to hate women and women are socialized to hate women. I am SO GRATEFUL for my experience in Girl Scouts as a child/teen and in women and lesbian communities as a young queer adult that showed me what was possible for women to create.

If we can create a culture of support that regards women as the infinite creators of possibility that they are, I think the Lilith Festival could change the world. Imagine tens of thousands of women going to camp and enjoy music for three days and come out empowered, glowed up, more connected to their dreams and desires.

Vendor areas that support independent creators, nourishing food, safe camping areas, community creativity and support. The possibilities are truly endless. Free fruit for everyone in attendance has been a strong part of this vision.

(If we didn’t have the society we have we could just be born on Earth to live in nature, eating fruit, playing music and focusing on giving our unique gifts to the world. I just think fruit should be free and it serves as such a marvelous reminder of the bounty and sweetness of the world.)

This double cd really holds up. And Spotify is now showing us the distinction between discs one and two and I’m grateful!

I’m not trying to make the Lilith Festival exclusive to women, I simply propose it centers women. I know a lot of cool, gentle men and non binary folks who really enjoy the artists the Lilith Fair brought us, and I know they could be an asset to a culture that centers women.

If I could exclude anyone it would be mean girls, but I haven’t yet figured out how to do that other than to shine so brightly that it makes them uncomfortable and they leave on their own to go gossip with other mean girls. Trust your instincts about people. Trust and discern intentions–is someone grabbing power just to have power or to genuinely serve community?

Until my Spring hyper focus on Lilith Fair I didn’t know they revived the tour in 2010. How did I miss that as someone who definitely would have gone?? I went to two events summer 2010 in California from NYC, I definitely could have prioritized Lilith Fair tickets wherever. (I was stoked to read about it in Brandi Marie Carlile’s memoir and glad she got to play.)

I watched an interview with Sarah McLachlan about why 2010 Lilith Fair didn’t work and I’m actually not surprised it didn’t do well, given that I didn’t hear about it. A lot of things like that rise and fall on marketing and social support from people who believe in it. And… nothing is really a failure it’s a learning experience.

From the pics it looks like those who performed and attended 2010 Lilith Fair really enjoyed themselves!

As my Spring of imagining the power of a revival of Lilith Fair as a festival moved into the Summer, I began cultivating a relationship with Lilith herself!

Lilith is distinct in a lot of different cultures, but my favorite way to describe her is the very essence of divine femininity in its raw most instinctive state. We see her depicted naked most frequently. (On True Blood we saw her naked covered in blood.) She’s not the femininity that dresses up, she’s femininity who creates and is in the most instinctive flow. Her magnetism is the ultimate receptivity.

I believe God is not a man in the sky but a life force energy animating our hearts, our breath, the energy that turns the acorn into an oak tree and is the infinite creative potential we all have. Lilith is the divine receptivity to that energy and conduit of that energy.

It’s an evolving understanding but I’m into it. And I want to foster it so I’m telling everyone about my dream for a Lilith Festival.

How thrilled and validated I felt to see Brandi Marie Carlile welcome Sarah McLachlan as a surprise guest to her three nights at the Gorge in early June? (I said internally “It’s a SIGN!” since I had only just started following Brandi on social.) I knew from the memoir that Brandi had seen all three Lilith Fairs at the Gorge. The full circle of what Brandi is creating is so gorgeous and fulfilling.

When one person’s dream comes true thousands become possible! I truly LOVE witnessing BMC’s dreams come true!

I’d absolutely LOVE to go to Brandi’s Girls Just Wanna Weekend in Mexico in January. (Janelle Monae?! Hello!!) I am so curious about the culture that the Bramily has formed and I think is only expanding as Brandi’s gaining momentum.

AND I really want Lilith Festival to be easy and accessible as much as possible. Camping accommodations make something much more financially accessible if the promoters aren’t price gauging.

Do we need Sarah McLachlan on board? Ideally yes but I don’t think she needs to be in leadership necessarily. She might not even want to be! (Realizing I can be the idea gal for my own company but also that once I’m able to scale and serve more clients I want to hire a CEO to be responsible for the business leadership was a real awareness moment for me. Just cuz you have the idea doesn’t mean you have to shoulder all the responsibility–humans are interdependent by design.)

Lilith is of course in the creative commons and a Festival is a different entity entirely than Lilith Fair. It’s not the music business (a toxic industry that doesn’t do a good job of fostering great art) it’s a music experience.

Anyway, this is me dreaming out loud something I want to see happen in the world! If you’re a visioning/spiritual/praying type, maybe think a good thought towards this possibility so that it can gain some spiritual momentum.

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I’ve known who Brandi Carlile is consciously since about 2010 when a friend fell in love with her wife and they initially bonded over a mutual love of Brandi. The thing about Brandi fans (aka the Bramily) is that they are VERY into Brandi Marie Carlile. I witnessed it and I didn’t get it.

Hi! I’m Bevin! I want to be a good influence on you! If art is how you decorate space, music is how you decorate time.

Prior to 2010 I’m pretty sure I had heard Brandi’s music around in my Lilith Fair, feminist festivals, fan of Indigo Girls since I was a pre-teen life. Somehow she never opened for Indigo Girls when I saw them. As the years wore on I gathered a few songs I like–I even played Every Time I Hear that Song on the second episode of my current podcast. The Mother really spoke to me, too!

Her song The Story only pierced my heart when Dolly Rebecca Parton covered it. (Which remains my favorite version and a song I like to tuck myself in to.) Turns out Brandi produced that version in the middle of the night (neither of those prolific women seem to sleep much)!

The Spotify robots are my favorite AI and they know me better than my therapist. They have been trying to set me up with Brandi Marie Carlile for many years. She autoplays all the time after songs I already like, and they pushed a bunch of projects she produced (and I loved before I knew she produced them!).

Thanks to the Spotify Robots I was an avowed Highwomen fan as soon as that album came out. I didn’t realize Brandi or Maren Morris (who I enjoy greatly, listen to all her albums, perfect for forest walks) were in the super group!

The more I understand Elton John as an influence on Brandi the more I see it in her stage outfits!

I have always wanted a house with a crowded table. (Insert all the grief feels about being a bachelorette who eats over her kitchen sink.) I recognized Yola in the title track of their first album and just didn’t realize who the Highwomen were. I just thought they were a group! I forgot that Maren Morris was blonde for awhile and did not recognize her!

The Secret Sisters “Late Bloomer” another Brandi Carlile production is an amazing song if you, too, carry the grief of the bachelorette or perpetual entrepreneur or whatever late blooming you’re doing. (You’re not too old, it’s not too late.)

I’m sure there’s some Divine Plan around me finally “getting” Brandi by Fourth Pandemic Summer.

I was inspired to listen to her audiobook Broken Horses this Spring based on the recommendation of one of my favorite internet moms on Instagram dot com. I could see her fall in love with Brandi after that book and start using her music frequently.

I love a mid-career memoir! Success leaves clues! Dolly Rebecca Parton’s 1994 My Life and Other Unfinished Business (linking to bootleg audiobook on you tube dot com) on cassette tape changed my life in 2008. I listened to it so many times I had to buy another used copy because a tape warped. I bought the paperback so I could reference quotes. That’s where I went from “Dolly fan” to totally in love with and devoted to Dolly Rebecca Parton.

When I started Brandi’s book I got kind of annoyed by the music at the end of each chapter. I listen to memoirs as I wind down at night (reducing my screen time for sleep hygiene–self care!) and if I wanted to listen to music I would choose that. (Someday I’ll treat you to my rant about the chimes in Eckhart Tolle’s audiobook for the Power of Now.)

As I reached the later chapters I had already walked through the gates of my consuming love for Brandi Marie and I LOVED the music. In a life defined by her music the DEPTH of the solo acoustic guitar and piano were such a value add to the audiobook. I immediately listened to the memoir a second time. And as she got to stories in her career that I could look up on you tube dot com I would look them up.

I seriously cannot watch this performance of Dolly Parton at the Newport Folk Festival without sobbing. In her memoir Brandi tells the story of coordinating the Dolly surprise and Dolly walking backstage covered up with her little fancy high heels. AND she tells the story of ASKING Dolly and continuing to ask her until she got the yes.

(When I become an ancestor please play the Dolly/Brandi duet of I Will Always Love You at my services.)

Since I read the memoir a second time I’m now on a deep dive of everything I can find–podcasts, interviews, old performances, etc… The Bramily has done a fine job of fan curation of Brandi’s herstory and all sorts of glimmers. And Brandi has done a marvelous job of saying YES to so many opportunities to share.

There is so much I admire about Brandi. Her relentless pursuit of whatever is on her heart (asking for help and persistently following up is one of my lifetime lessons). Her attitude–she said in this interview that she has always been excited at every moment of her career. That gratitude energy is big time important for quality of life and law of attraction.

She started out busking in Seattle and suggests it as a great way to learn crowd work. She connects so well with her audiences and the people she duets with. I love that she looks her fellow performers in the eye as she duets with them. In her you tube dot com documentary about the Pindrop tour (I loved this as an addition to the reflection in her memoir) she talks about how much she wants to be a conduit for love.

“I love people. That’s what I was put on this earth to do–love people. It might sound a little bit cheesy but I don’t really give a fuck. If I can stand on stage and have a theoretical esoteric conversation with 2,000 people what’s better than that?”

That is the motivation right there for amazing art–storytelling, songwriting, performance, producing, mothering, creating home and family.

Brandi Carlile is so easy to love!

I love how she (like Indigo Girls) is not afraid to speak truth to pseudo power. She stands up for what she believes in, and as a queer who loves country and has been putting together country queer gatherings throughout my life I love that she is committed to the Americana genre and won’t be put into pop categories.

When asked in an interview about whether the Highwomen will have another album she says their focus is on platforming other minority artists in Americana. And I witness her do it!

This summer I’ve watched Brandi hit 1 Million followers on Instagram dot com, her Spotify monthly listeners leap from 4 million to 6 million in a month (she’s opening for p!nk in giant stadiums) If anyone thinks she’s an overnight success it’s taken her nearly 30 years. Grit is one of the most determining factors for success and Brandi embodies it!

She’s now someone I absolutely don’t miss on social media, I keep her in my search history so I don’t miss her stories (don’t let the algorithm boss you around, decide who you want to consume on social mediia!). Her newest album In These Silent Days is incredible, and she has a second version “In the Canyon Haze” that is somehow even better. When an artist is peaking in their most recent work, for me that is true Greatness. (You’re only as good as your last at bat.) That’s something I want to keep paying attention to when its caught my spirit because there’s more unfolding for me to witness.

Brandi has absolutely “caught my spirit” and I can only say that about maybe 6 people.

If I was given the opportunity to interview Brandi Marie Carlile for my podcast I would first talk to her about her relationship with God. She speaks of her faith in the memoir and here and there but I want to know about her devotion and spiritual practice. I bet we could talk for an hour on that alone.

I want to ask about asking for help. Relentlessness. Times she heard a “no” and times she’s given a “no.” When you’re not hearing no you’re not asking enough, and being able to give a no means your yes has real meaning!

I want to ask her about building family. “Brandi Carlile” is legally a band that is a trio. Brandi is a double Gemini (moon and sun, we don’t know her birth time on the internet so her rising is a mystery*) and I don’t think it’s a coincidence that she shifted from playing with her “Irish twin” brother to playing with a pair of actual twins who are incredibly talented.

I think she has leveraged the emotional support and psychological safety of that stage/family relationship (she considers them her brothers) to perform her best and pour her love out to the crowd regardless of the slings, arrows and set backs that keep a lot of us from persisting.

Her reflection in the memoir about her Grandmother Dolores speaking faith over her and how she was born for greatness I think has a lot to do with her perseverance and vision for her life. I want more Grandma Dolores stories!

If you are a fan you gotta listen to their double date on Glennon Doyle’s podcast we can do hard things.

I love her love story with Catherine and I want more of her lessons in marriage and family on the road. I became a digital nomad just so that I could someday be a family on the road for part of the year.

I also love the way she lovingly refers to her “faults” in her memoir. Calling herself objectively bad with money. We are only able to love others as much as we can love the hardest parts of ourselves to love. Brandi is a genius at love. I want to know more about her ongoing relationship with money cuz we both have Chiron in Taurus which is about money wounding!

And I want know about her woods! She grew up in the woods I walk in every day (she grew up and lives about 120 miles from me, and our mycelial and tree networks are connected!). I am so in love with these woods and want to know her favorite plants and seasons. And where she likes to go on Whidbey Island which is very close to me!

I do not know why I was so primed to love Brandi for decades and it took me so long to get here but I’m grateful. The love she pours into her audience is felt. I live near Seattle so her fans are very concentrated here. When I’m at a lesbian potluck and Brandi’s name comes up I hear the rising spirit in the voices and the love from her fans.

Towards the end of summer I got added to an HBOMax account by friends who are family when my aunt was suddenly really sick and probably dying (she did pass, two weeks ago). I remember feeling all out of sorts that day but finally getting to watch Brandi Carlile In the Canyon Haze Live from Laurel Canyon lifted my spirit so much. This is what great art and digging into your curiosities can do–lift you up emotionally when you need it.

I am so grateful Brandi exists and never gave up! I hope this inspires you to go stream her stuff or read the memoir or deep dive and figure out what Brandi helps light up in you!

*If I were to guess her rising it’s Pisces. Brandi can be anything, she’s a shapeshifter, she’s emotionally gifted and brilliant at the psychic connection with her audience and otherwise doesn’t have Pisces in her chart. Her Mercury in Cancer could be why she’s so gifted at emotional connection and communication. Her Mars in Taurus is definitely the tenacity for pursuing her career and her epic work habit. I think it grounds her Gemini curiosity. Her Venus in Gemini is definitely where her shifting aesthetic shines, but I think she hasn’t looked better than she does now. Her swishy masculine style is a favorite of mine!

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I’ve been an emcee professionally for 30 years. I’ll count my leadership at Girl Scout Camp as part of that because I was being paid to wrangle groups of 10-300 people from ages 6-96. I’ve emceed drag king shows (that’s where I really cut my chops entertaining crowds of majority intoxicated people wanting to have a good time), fundraisers, auctions, dance parties, virtual retreats, lesbian talent shows (and no talent shows), cabarets, poetry readings, weddings, virtual fundraisers, burlesque shows, aerobics classes and many many more.

Hi! I’m Bevin! I want to be a good influence on you! This is me Femmeceeing a theater of about 1,500 people in Chicago.

Something I’ve learned from my recent studies in failure is that it’s way easier to teach something that didn’t come easily to you because talent is hard to duplicate. I think I do have some natural talent in this area. (Mercury Sagitarius, I have inherent flair for writing and communicating.)

I have learned a lot in my 10,000+ hours doing this, building on talent but adding wisdom and confidence through experience. I started nervous, and couldn’t have spoken from stage at my high school the way I could at Girl Scout Camp because I experienced camp as a psychologically safe environment.

The best time to get started practicing your skills was ten years ago the next best time is now. Just do it. But maybe start in a psychologically safe environment before diving into a heckling drunk comedy show!

Femmeceeing on my home stage at Rebel Cupcake at Sugarland a dive bar in Brooklyn (RIP). I found setting the tone for a body positive dance party meant we needed a 20-30 min show.

Stage fright. Let’s start here! I felt soooo nervous at first and for years and years. Anytime I’ve had performers at a show with stage fright I was giving a pep talk to this is what I say, “When you’re nervous it means you care about your audience. Give them a great show!”

Eventually as you learn to prepare adequately you won’t get as nervous. But you might never not be nervous and that’s okay!

In the past four years I’ve endeavored to uplevel my interpersonal communication skills and reduce my social anxiety. It’s so fascinating how I could get up in front of a crowd of 70,000 people, unprepared in my pajamas and feel more comfortable than talking to a stranger at the grocery store. I think this is a leftover trauma response from early life bullying (a stranger is not yet a psychologically safe environment and could be scary).

Experience creates confidence and you will get better! Focusing on the love you have for your audience is a really beautiful way to dance with the nerves!

Setting the tone. This is the most important part of emceeing! You’re creating an environment for everyone there to enjoy the experience of the performance.

Contemplate how you want the event to feel for folks and provide the spirit! Teach the audience how to clap or ask them to cheer again if there’s a lackluster response. Emceeing is a lot like leadership–you go the way and show the way.

I also set the tone backstage! If I’m producing the experience I lead a circle of the performers and volunteers backstage to connect to a higher power, our benevolent queer and decolonial ancestors (or whatever is meaningful to you) and ask for guidance and our best sparkle. Perhaps there’s cheering involved. Elevate the spirit!

On stage at the Miss Lez pageant with my emceeing mentor Murray Hill!

Complimenting. I see my job as an emcee to weave the entire experience together with the audience. I find one noteworthy thing about each act and when I get up on stage between acts I mention it. I will usually ask for another round of applause or appreciation.

Once I was emceeing a speed dating event and there were performers between rounds of speed dating. A performer did a particularly violent sadistic erotica reading that was a weird energy for the room. Speed dating is a nervous thing. I forget what I said but whatever compliment I gave or observation made the entire room burst out in appreciative tension reducing laughter.

Trust your comedic impulses but remember punch up not punch down. Do not insult performers, producers or the audience who paid their money, time and attention to attend!

Tipping. This is one of the most important parts of being a drag or burlesque emcee, and in these economic times where the generosity of a few in a community make the events possible for the wider community with different means–encourage tipping!

I do a tipping demo at the beginning of a show to instruct how folks could appreciatively and non-disruptively tip performers. Like literally get a volunteer and a performer and show how one might tip! It can be sexy!*

For the electronic age! Have the venmos/paypals/electronic payment info ahead of time for each act and announce it after their act again! (Tip for producers–have these on signs around the room for the whole show! For a virtual event, post the info at the top and end of each performance/presentation.)

A fat fashion show in Seattle!

Picking your seat and professionalism. You are the person who needs to see everything. I’ve seen shows from backstage as emcee but it’s way easier for me to have audience POV. If I was emceeing in a theater I would put a reserved sign on a front row seat to the far end next to the stage stairs. And I would hoof it up and down those stage steps. If that’s not physically possible for you, all good, figure out where you can be to pay attention. SHOWBIZ! means being prepared for anything and keeping it moving and adaptable.

As emcee your job is to be present and ON the entire show. Use the powder room during intermission, before and after the show. BE AWARE of how drinking and other substances affect your ability to truly be the master/mistress/mistrex of ceremonies! In my booze bag days my rule was one maker’s mark before a show and then whatever after. (May I suggest EFT Tapping as a way to calm nerves that’s more effective than booze?)

Now that I only use plant medicine I do not use psilocybin (undetectable microdoses not withstanding but even then I might plan a gig day as an off day) before I am on the mic and I typically also don’t use cannabis unless it’s a specific cannabis use event. And even then I might not! I take my role seriously. Professionalism matters!

A life highlight was having Kate Bornstein and her partner Barbara Carrellas at the second anniversary of Rebel Cupcake! My intro ended up being in the documentary about Kate and my only IMDB credit!

Backstage connection. I go out of my way to make a personal connection with each act/person I am introducing before the show. I introduce myself, check in about what they would like me to say about their act and confirm I know what is going on.

Learn how to pronounce their names! Write it out phonetically! If you get it incorrect apologize and get it correct! Learn why it’s important to know someone’s name by reading How to Win Friends and Influence People.

It’s also helpful to know if the act ends in a way that isn’t obvious so you don’t do the hesitation act of not going out in time or you end up going out to speak before the act is actually finished.

Thank yous. Be sure to ask the producer(s) who to thank from stage. It’s always great to have the thank yous ready in case there’s a lull in the show and you need to vamp to fill time. (Also good to have some stories or jokes to tell in order to vamp to fill time.) I like to thank bartenders, lighting, sound, ASL interpreters (hire interpreters! deaf people want to be included), door folks, backstage helpers, volunteer crews, sponsors, especially enthusiastic audience members, etc…

Sound check and preparation! Do this! Do not wing it! The audience needs to hear your voice! Walk around the whole room before the show and get a sense for each vantage point. Have someone during sound check in each back corner of the room tell you that they can hear you clearly. My script for sound check is “Mic check one two one two” ad nauseum or I might just start chatting.

This is the hardest part of being an aerobics instructor– not having a sound person running that for me! I ask someone before all my Zoom aerobics classes “Can you hear my voice AND the music?” That thumbs up matters!

Teaching aerobics with a sound person at the Spectrum in Irvine in front of a ferris wheel. I loved having that Torrid funding! I got paid in “exposure” and the outfit I was wearing but it was worth it to say I taught aerobics to Hello Kitty! Life highlight!

Notes vs freestyling. Start where you are! If you need notes, if you need to literally read from a notecard or paper, do it! Make your clipboard cute to look at. I used notes for many years and the first few weddings I officiated were fully written out. BUUUUT I took a powerful media training years ago that got me “off book” for life by helping me blast through whatever blocks I had to trusting my inner voice that wants to come out.

Most stand up comics, poets and performance artists don’t work with notes because being off book and in the moment is more powerful communication.

I performed one of my very best and most powerful performance art pieces 2008-2013 a dozen times entirely on book. I could never memorize it because I just hadn’t burst through that block yet. It was still something that moved people and brought tears. It’s all good if you need notes, but practice. And eventually you’ll speak from the heart.

These days I mostly work from a run of show with notes on it. You create the better connection being off book. My podcasts are not overly planned, I tend to brew on the topic and have in mind what needs to come through and trust the present moment to reveal what needs to be said.

Self care breaks! As the emcee make sure that you tell folks what’s appropriate for their human needs! I’m the kind of person who trusts adults to make their own choices about needing to step out of a room, but sometimes folks need prompting and a ten minute break! Remember to get some music to play during the break and decorate the time.

I love a conference with a line dance moment between seminars and as an emcee you can get a group of folks doing the Wobble.

Organizing shows. I frequently organize shows and emcee myself (I call it Femmeceeing, a term coined by my bestie Rachael). Mostly because I just love to share with the audience why I booked the performer and what they mean to me! But it is SO MUCH WORK to be the producer and emcee so after my first ever Dollypalooza event I realized I was dissociated for most of it because I had so much to keep track of. For the next year I hired a co-emcee and made sure I sat in the audience and really enjoyed it. You also need a very good and capable stage manager.

Dollypalooza in Brooklyn! This was a sold out crowd and so much fun to honor Dolly Rebecca Parton! I will bring it back when I have sponsorship funding and the pandemique isn’t raging!

Further reading. I read this book the 16 undeniable laws of communication and would recommend it to anyone who is emceeing or performing professionally.

I have screwed up on all of these before! Learn from my mistakes. I sure have! That’s failing forward.

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*Also fun to have those money guns that spurt out dollar bills! I’ve used one once for my birthday celebration in Atlanta. My bestie Rachael handed me the dollar bill gun and I got to spray a performer doing Cardi B’s Money. Life highlight!

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