Surrendering to the Body
My scarcity mindset tries to kick up in times like this when I’m torn between Going and Doing vs Sitting and Being. The FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) monster thinks there’s some magic happening I can’t be part of. Instead of focusing on where I’m at and creating JOWID (Joy Of Whatever I’m Doing). The magic was right where I was at!
My basic pep talk for when my brain wants to do what my body is not available for is “What is for me will not pass me by.”
Atlanta Pride 2025
I have been to Atlanta Pride at least three times. The first one I remember mostly a Femme Mafia party in Rachael’s backyard with multiple kiddie pools and enough rainbow jello shots to cover Michael Anthony’s countertop in preparation. The event is fuzzy but I do remember pulling a Brandon Walsh and hiding a too-drunk-to-drive […]
Gamifying Self Care with the Finch App
The Finch App is a daily habit tracker that goads one into self care activities so that you can buy your lil bird pet outfits and accessories for their birdhouse. I reflected on withdrawing my attention from Instagram & Facebook and using Finch for cheap dopamine in exchange for self care tasks. Recently I had […]
Powerful Questions for Dealing with the Doctor and the Mechanic
In our society we give a lot of undeserved “status*” to people based on their jobs. (As a former attorney allow me to assure you there are plenty of idiots and bigots that can pass exams in all fields, including law and medicine. They don’t deserve your money.)
The Relationship Great Glass Elevator
I was a Roald Dahl girlie growing up so understanding archetypes based in those narratives makes sense to me. I came up with this idea about the Relationship Great Glass Elevator that helps me understand how I want to love and be loved for however long I get on this floating rock in space this lifetime.
Call it Hand S*x Not Fingering!
Let’s remember that hands have five digits each and the vigorousness, stamina and strength one can offer with a forearm is far more than what’s possible with other appendages.
My Love Story with Rachael
Rachael’s lavish love and devotion has shown me I am worthy of so much love, grace and support.
The Distinction Between Courtship and Dating
If there is one lesson I could teach the 27 year old Bevin that began this blog it’s the distinction between courtship and dating.
Vitamin I: Imagination
We are using our imaginations to come up with worst case scenarios when we worry. Simultaneously we are flooding our body with chemicals that harm our immune system and cause disease.
When I find myself worrying I like to antidote it by coming up with five good things that are possible. Training the brain against those tendencies to catastrophize.
Loving Her Was Like Driving a New Maserati Down a Dead End Street
Our connection was so good! Like a hot fast car you can’t take anywhere. I read recently that we become whole and complete ourselves but there’s work we can only do on ourselves in relation to someone else. I think I felt a lot of grief about the work we were going to do together?
I’m Not Engaged but I had an Online Bachelorette Party Anyway and Here’s How it Went
But 2020 happened the way it did, all tours were called off and I was left wondering if maybe I could do an online Bachelorette party. That way, everyone can come, no one has to pay to travel or take out a whole weekend. A couple of hours, some good performances and connection time felt great to me!
Cherishing early adulthood stamina
I’m feeling really nourished by all of the fun memories I made in my early adulthood really squeezing the marrow out of life. I think one of my greatest assets in that time was having so much fun!