The Finch App is a daily habit tracker that goads one into self care activities so that you can buy your lil bird pet outfits and accessories for their birdhouse.

I reflected on withdrawing my attention from Instagram & Facebook and using Finch for cheap dopamine in exchange for self care tasks.
Recently I had the greatest challenge to my daily self care practice—going out of town and on gaycation. The disruption from the systems in my day to day life—where I keep my vitamins on the table so there is less barrier to remember to take them with meals, an altar plate to leave ancestor offerings—throw me off track.
The more self care I have the better Bevin I can be and in these increasingly bonkers times I need the groundedness and stability I create from these routine nourishments. (Especially my tummy microbiome support when indulging in rich foods-God gives her weakest digestion to her hottest soldiers.)
Behavior is nourishment and spending just a few minutes meditating or visualizing an energetic cleanse brings me right back to center.
The first part of this gaycation was around a lot of people and I took many moments to meditate alone on our balcony and feed my Finch the self care she needs to thrive. It’s so helpful to have a list of demands (I mean, tasks) to attend to when I am away from my routine but want to return to center. That sense of safety inside myself needs continual attention lest the brain weasels come through and try to hijack my good time.
As your Finch grows it increasingly demands more activity to create rewards (makes sense). I recently grew Blanche into an adult and now have to get more strategic. In many ways my list of tasks is aspirational—I rarely finish all of them but they function as good ideas in a moment. But Finch is also good for daily work tasks and organizing your day or week.

I really like that when I’m not having a great day in the mood check in I get some extra points for my activities because it does take more effort to break through the walls of resistance. I am doing significantly more breathwork because of Blanche and I get focus timer activity points and meditation timer bonus points.
I’m in two different Discord communities that have Finch App threads where we discuss our birbs and strategies. Laundry is five tasks by the way—sorting, washing, drying, folding and putting away. A nugget I learned from an organizational guru twenty years ago (shout out FLY Lady) and that plays out well for Finch rainbow stones during this era of smart phones and cheap dopamine.
Anyway, other than my one day with a violent stomach bug (thankfully didn’t set in til I was back at Rachael’s in the downtime portion of my gaycation) I have been entirely consistent with taking my supplements twice daily and so many more self care tasks I tend to slack on when I’m away from home, thanks to this app. Highly recommend!
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