Boss Up with Bevin Your dream life is at the end of your comfort zone

2012-10-19

New Episode of the Lesbian Tea Basket: Sleep Tea

First of all, if you are a subscriber to the blog on a blog reader, I’m sorry to say the RSS feed was out of commission for a couple of weeks. My friend Bridget is a hero and has fixed it. Thanks Bridget!!

In this episode of the Lesbian Tea Basket I talk about my cat ALF’s near death experience and how this has amped up my anxieties and how I’ve been having trouble sleeping! And so I bought some Sleep Tea from my favorite tea dealer The Herb Shoppe and I do a little experiment about whether it will actually help me sleep.

I didn’t have this list of ingredients while I was filming but I just called the Shoppe and they are so helpful. Here’s what’s in it. You can totally order it from them maybe not on the website but you can call the Portland store and get them to ship it to you. I love local indie businesses!

Sleep Tea: Lavender, rose, chamomile, peppermint, spearmint, hops, valerian and passion flower.

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I’m excited to welcome a Blog Benefactor who is a pal of mine. Jonah, whose candlemaking I detailed on my Road Trip Recap from the Bay Area, is back in business this Fall making holiday candles.

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In the words of Jonah:

Hanukkah is rapidly approaching, beginning on
25 Kislev/Friday December 8th!

Narrow Bridge Candles is a Jewish Ritual Candlemaking Project in support of the full Palestinian Call for Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions (BDS).
www.bdsmovement.net
Profits go to support the Stop the JNF Campaign.
www.stopthejnf.org

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100% Beeswax, hand dipped candles from hives in Oakland and Berkeley, CA. No dyes or perfumes.

Go to www.narrowbridgecandles.org
to order your candles today!
$24-$44 Hanukkah Candles (45)
$16-$32 Shabbat Candles (4 pairs)
$4-$8 Havdallah Candle

Early Ordering Deadline: 17 Cheshvan/Friday November 2 (I’ll put an extra Havdallah candle in your box to thank you for your timely order.) Final Ordering Deadline: 2 Kislev/Friday November 16 (I may take orders after this date but reserve the right to decline based on my capacity!)

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Support awesome anti-zionist candle making!

2012-04-17

Sleep is my Party Drug

Many folks will be familiar with the show Downton Abbey that has swept through the hulusphere. The first season is on Netflix watch instantly, second season I think is on hulu plus now. Get on it if you like things that are nighttime soapy and vintage realness it is totally that sweet spot shows like Mad Men fill.

Anyway, in the first season Lady Grantham says to her eldest daughter Mary that she should get a good night’s sleep. Mary quips, “You always say that.” And Lady Grantham says, “That’s because it usually does.”

I keep thinking about this scene lately as I cultivate my sleeping habits amidst a lot of life schedule changes.

I notice how well a good night’s sleep treats me the next day. How much self care there is in turning off the internet at a “reasonable hour”, whatever that means. For me that means setting myself up to sleep for 7-8 hours. Feels like a luxury given how much I need/want to accomplish in a given day and how much play time I want to squeeze in there. But accepting my human limitations is one of my great spiritual lessons and, unfortunately, I know that means prioritizing sleep over all those zombies I want to serve cheeseburgers in my clickie clickie game.

I have a lot of admiration for people who can sleep very little and thrive. In accepting my own human limitations I am accepting human diversity and props to my siblings in the struggle who can handle life, art, activism, family, work with very little sleep.

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I’m pretty excited about this sweater dress. I got it vintage for only five bucks, right before it got too warm to wear it.

I have had a ton of conversations lately with folks about how much fun we’re having going to bed early. (Usually when a topic is coming up in conversation that’s how I know I am brewing it for my blog.) Just this morning my pal Austin was bragging that he got to bed at 10:30 the night before. Time Out New York called me a Plus Size Party Girl and I know that to be true. However, I also know it is true I need and want to sleep. The tried and true way that I’ll be totally on my game when I go out is to get a lot of rest the night before. A good night’s sleep is my party drug.

Sure, there are times in my life where I’m all go go go, one social engagement after another. But if I don’t factor in necessary sleep I will inevitably get myself sick. At that pace, also, I certainly don’t enjoy things the way I want to. And what is the point of living an incredible life without the time and faculties to savor it?

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Macy agrees.

Lately I’ve been going through one giant fiasco after another. Seriously, the shit storm has been Saturn Return in proportion, yet I am 33 and supposed to be past my Saturn Return.* Personal life, financial life, work life. All requiring attention, solutions, strategies, and going to bed with the faith that everything is going to feel better in the morning. And it usually does.

I’ve been hella anxious lately. There’s not a lot in my life I can control right now but the stuff I can I’m totally going to control what I can. So I gave up coffee again and get enough sleep.

Sleeping a lot on the weekends has also helped me cope. My emotions have a very tight correlation to my body and all the stuff I’ve been going through is exhausting. Relenting to that and reveling in the joy of sleep has been great. A weekend night of 10 hours is really amazing to me these days.

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“Well, nobody likes their job, nobody got enough sleep.”

I’m always checking in with myself regarding depression, since it runs in my family and I am prone to bouts of it (and the oh so obnoxious seasonal affective disorder where just the lack of light bums me out). Sleeping a lot can sometimes mean I’m depressed but I know right now I’m just making sure I can be the best Bevin I can be under the circumstances.

So. Self care. Sleep. Sleep as a means of coping. Sleep as a means of energizing to enjoy the most out of parties and life. Here’s to lots!

*If any of my readers out there are astrologers and want to barter for a reading I would be so down.

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