ITEM THE FIRST: There is this really great article from National Geographic about Health at Every Size. It also includes a pretty great primer on the concepts of intuitive eating and exercising for fun and feeling good and not for culturally mandated self-worth. If only unlearning all of the self-hatred and doubting of food from decades of dieting were so easy to put into a primer…
Me and Leslie not wearing jeans but shopping! At SITE!
ITEM THE THIRD: As summer sadly draws to a close for New Yorkers, I am reliving the beginning of this beautiful season by editing an episode of the Lesbian Tea Basket. One of the best parts of my life are all of the incredible characters I have the privilege of meeting and chatting with. I love to share that with you, and here’s someone amazing I had tea with.
Bird is amazing. This is her jacket.
Bird La Bird is a performance artist and Femme from London who is quite good to look at and very charming, smart and funny. We discuss her process of coming out as Femme, queer temporality, Jack Halberstam, her time as an award-winning strict Catholic playboy bunny and Whole Foods “Get Gorgeous” tea.
"I call it the Comfort of Queer Family Wisdom and it's for anyone who could use a little tender love and history because we are not alone."
We can all use tender love! The calendar is beautiful and full of queer faces.
"This is all-out, gloves off, direct action TLC. These are the voices and role models that I sought out for comfort and strength. This is the calendar that I'd wished I'd had: full of family trees and loving words to remind you that you belong. A lot of the advice is also for facing racism."
A friend of mine got me this in pink once. Adam & Eve has it in black or red for $9.95. It's great because it sticks to itself and if you're not a very good knot person (unlike me, I was a Girl Scout) and want to play with bondage it is a great tool. **Safety first! Always have good scissors on hand--medical scissors recommended. And play with a safe word.**
I have to say that in lieu of having someone to play or have sex with, bondage tape makes a great make-shift halter bra when you need maximal cleavage and your back free of straps. Just get a friend to help you and wrap a fairly tight circle around your neck and under your boobs a bunch of time. I have a really cute deep cleavage halter dress and this is a must-have accessory.
I also like bondage tape for the cute stripes and criss crosses you can make along your body for costume purposes.
It's Cyber Monday (I kind of hate that it's a thing now but it's a thing now) and I am fresh from watching so many movies about how the spirit of the holidays is not about capitalism it's about feeling warm and generous. I, personally, love all things glitter and magical and really appreciate the holidays in a take what you like and leave the rest sort of way. I love that people decorate their houses in glitter and lights. I also enjoy supporting small businesses and queer owned businesses. So if you're going to participate in gift giving, I'm super into connecting people to small businesses. I'm also into giving people good gift ideas.
My holiday gift guide this year is not compensated--I included small businesses owned by folks I know and indie businesses suggested by my followers who commented on my instagram and facebook posts asking for their favorites. I also threw in a couple of wild cards from more corporate origins that were just good gift suggestions for folks struggling with what to give. I've got ideas for the femmes, queers, masculine of center, pets and woo/spiritual folks on your list!
My astrologeronce told me that money is energy in 3D form and I totally believe in being mindful about putting your energy out there, especially when you're doing holiday shopping. So here is a big list of possible holiday gifts for all kinds of folks on your list, enjoy!