Hey y’all! I am stranded in San Francisco and having a ball. I came out here to throw Rebel Cupcake in Oakland with my friend Christine at her production company‘s Friday night party Hot Box and go to the Hard French Winter Ball. Both events were unique and incredible queer experiences!
Me and Christine.
There was an ice storm in Brooklyn and our flight got rescheduled so Mackenzi and I are stuck here for a couple of more days.
Just a blog housekeeping note: for some reason the bandwidth on Queer Fat Femme.com went bananas the other day and I exceeded the meager bandwidth I pay for (maybe it’s time I sold advertising?) so for a couple of days there was a blank screen where there once were pithy anecdotes and queer magic fun times. I make it up to you now with this…
New episode of the Lesbian Tea Basket! Check it out, featuring Alix and Jen Gandy, discussion of Maple Chasing and, you know, tea for lesbians.
Also while on vacation I’ve been reading some Mormon Mommy Blogs (there’s a whole tribe of them, I just read about them on Jezebel and Salon.com). I’m totally inspired by them, because of the positive attitude, extremely cute and inventive crafts, and their relentless photo documentation of the things they do. So maybe I’ll include more stories and recaps on the blog in the coming months.
Mackenzi and I were talking about what exciting things are happening in New York City this weekend. She said, “There are lots of things to do this weekend, unpack, do laundry, mourn the fact that you’re not in San Francisco.”
It has long been my wish to retire from the practice of law in order to follow my dreams. For years I thought about it, but had no idea how it could happen.
Eventually I managed to work part time in law and part time advancing my work to help make the world safe for people to love themselves. Moving across the country, out of the states I’m licensed in and having to leave my private practice has really kicked this into high gear. This is the time in my life to gamble on myself… can I do like Mariah Carey and Make it Happen? Will you help by buying some tea or sharing with your networks?
Creating my own line of Reiki-infused teas is one of my biggest dreams, and I'm taking the first steps in order to turn it into a goal. After all, goals are dreams with deadlines!
In the last couple of years as I've learned what is really important to me and learned to let go of what isn't, how to say no to things and how to check in with myself about what I am doing and how I am doing it. Moreover, I've learned how to identify for myself what is important to me, how to turn off all the voices of what I "should" be doing or who I "should" become, what my body "should" look like or how much I "should" love myself even when it's hard. I got tired of shoulding and wanted to instead be living and enjoying my life. Thus, I have created a practice whereby I check in with myself about my priorities. I try to do this every week, but basically it comes up for me when I feel off balance.
There's a new episode of the Lesbian Tea Basket!! I review Birthday Cake Tea from David's Tea in NYC. It's a super brandy brand kind of tea store with overpriced tea with fancy things inside it like birthday cake sprinkles (as in Birthday Cake Tea). My birthday is tomorrow so I kind of went for it with this $4 cup of tea. Also I said in the video they were in NYC but apparently they are all over North America.