Hey y’all! I am stranded in San Francisco and having a ball. I came out here to throw Rebel Cupcake in Oakland with my friend Christine at her production company‘s Friday night party Hot Box and go to the Hard French Winter Ball. Both events were unique and incredible queer experiences!
Me and Christine.
There was an ice storm in Brooklyn and our flight got rescheduled so Mackenzi and I are stuck here for a couple of more days.
Just a blog housekeeping note: for some reason the bandwidth on Queer Fat Femme.com went bananas the other day and I exceeded the meager bandwidth I pay for (maybe it’s time I sold advertising?) so for a couple of days there was a blank screen where there once were pithy anecdotes and queer magic fun times. I make it up to you now with this…
New episode of the Lesbian Tea Basket! Check it out, featuring Alix and Jen Gandy, discussion of Maple Chasing and, you know, tea for lesbians.
Also while on vacation I’ve been reading some Mormon Mommy Blogs (there’s a whole tribe of them, I just read about them on Jezebel and Salon.com). I’m totally inspired by them, because of the positive attitude, extremely cute and inventive crafts, and their relentless photo documentation of the things they do. So maybe I’ll include more stories and recaps on the blog in the coming months.
Mackenzi and I were talking about what exciting things are happening in New York City this weekend. She said, “There are lots of things to do this weekend, unpack, do laundry, mourn the fact that you’re not in San Francisco.”
When we were driving to Northern CA for my partner to have a work meeting in San Francisco during our post-chemo road trip last Fall, she made the mistake of confusing my hometown of Castro Valley, CA with the famous district of The Castro in San Francisco. The two places are only a 30 minute drive apart, but could not be further from one another in many ways.
I wasn't so excited to show Dara my hometown, but it was very important for me to dispel any confusing thoughts she had about the two places. I share below some of the highlights.
It was pretty bananas trying to herd animals with a bunch of people you only just met. Our strategy was to create a semi-circle and move the herd that way. It kind of worked, we were ultimately successful. I only got hit by a ram in my leg a couple of times and only got scratched up by Biblical thorny plants a little bit, but I barely noticed because it was so thrilling to get to hang out with animals.
I adore the duo behind GAYmous, PizzaCupcake and FxBoi. They are incredible, talented and super rad people. And when I first watched their new video for "(Let's Pretend We Don't Have) Feelings" I couldn't help but smile. Watching fun queers dancing around, many of whom you'll recognize from my blog in years past and my travels to San Francisco, and listening to the incredibly catchy tune. It was morning when we watched it and my girlfriend was singing it in the shower a few minutes later.