Boss Up with Bevin Your dream life is at the end of your comfort zone

2018-05-13

Gender and Size Inclusive Activewear, Swimwear and Underwear Brand TomBoyX!

This is a sponsored post by TomboyX, but all the words are mine and my mom’s!

It’s pretty special to be a queer person with a Lesbian mom. It’s nice to have that in common, even as my mom and I are as different as you can imagine a Glitter Mega Femme and a Tomboy can be (or, in astrology speak I’m a Capricorn and she’s a Cancer–we are literally opposite signs). Last year on a visit to mom in her Lesbian village in the woods deep outside of Seattle, she proudly showed me her TomBoyX bathing suit covered in jelly fish. She has never been this excited about a bathing suit in my whole life, so I knew it had to be special.

This whole outfit is still available at their website. Top here, shorts here. Photo by Jessica Hinkle.

She showed up to my workout video shoot a couple weeks ago with her latest TomboyX bathing suit as a wardrobe option and it was a great fit for the style! I had no idea their bathing suits could be used as activewear and my mom had so much to say about TomboyX that I thought a blog post was in order.

I asked TomboyX if they would partner with me to surprise my mom, Marianne, with a $300 gift card for Mother’s Day and they said yes! We went on a shopping spree together this weekend and she shared with me all the things she loves about TomboyX.

First of all, the combinations Activewear/Swimwear pieces. Mom likes the Activewear 9″ shorts for swimming and working out. How great that they offer different length shorts!

We bought her these in black for working out! (She’s an avid recumbent biker.)

She’s between their XL and 2X sizes. For working out on land she likes the bigger size, since she doesn’t like to wear things tight. If she’s planning to use a piece as a bathing suit she likes the fit to be clingy, and in her experience if she mostly wears the suit in the water it stretches a bit over time.

TomboyX goes up to a 4X in their clothing and starts at an XS–way to go covering a big spread in sizes, TomboyX! They’re also made in living wage factories, are constructed so they’re not bulky or ride up (no bulky flies like in traditional men’s underwear), and they have a love at first wear guarantee!

She bought a pair in the Octopus print to mix and match with the Navy/Orange set she already has!

The swim tops come in sleeveless, cap sleeve and long sleeve styles, which I think make them more gender inclusive and helps make being out swimming more accessible for more folks who are comfortable with more modesty, want different sun exposure, need a more masculine gender presentation in a suit, etc… My mom has psoriasis and the sun is good for it! She doesn’t let shame get in the way of her healing and gives it to the sun! Photo by Jessica Hinkle.

Mom got the Octopus print top to go with the activewear shorts for swimming.

On to underwear! Mom swears by their undies.

She lives in a tiny house, so she can’t have a huge underwear collection. But what she does have is mostly TomboyX!

Mom wears the XL in the 6″ Boxer Briefs. She has found the 2X gets too baggy for her overtime. The fabric is really soft “Like an old tee shirt for your butt and your thighs,” she says.

Because of her psoriasis it’s important for her to keep from getting damp and having the extended length boxer briefs keeps things from getting damp. It’s also chafe protection!

Only some of their underwear has rainbow on them but wouldn’t these be cute peeking over jeans in the Pride Parade?

She got the 6″ fly skull underwear as it was her favorite new print.

Mom is trying new things with this gift card! She bought the Micromodal Pajama Pants and was quick to point out she will be wearing this as just walking around town pants. I asked her how she would style it for her Pacific North West lifestyle and she said with a black and white plaid flannel shirt and a puffy vest. She got a 2X in those.

Mom got the TomboyX Army tee to rep the brand because she loves it and identifies as a Tomboy. She got this as a 2X!

She’s going to try out their bras now! She got an XL in the soft bra.

I asked her what she would want to tell the designers at TomboyX and she said to bring back this Tomboy print and more prints like it. She likes the graphic aesthetic of the older prints!

Thank you so much TomboyX for helping me delight and surprise my mom for Mother’s Day! If you ever need a model to represent age diversity, Mom isn’t far from Seattle where y’all are based!

2013-03-11

Plus Size Underwear for All Gender Presentations

I wrote a guest post at Autostraddle about Plus Size Underwear! Peek under skirts and pants and find out how to be well-dressed underneath your clothes! I write from the perspective of how I wear and buy underwear, but I also have a hearty section of what I like to see on masculine of center folks (though I don’t wear that kind of underwear).

Plus Size Underwear for All Gender Presentations

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Peeking under a skirt. A little Bevin on Devin action. Photo by Courtney Trouble.

2013-02-11

FAT SEX WEEK: Courtney Trouble’s New Porn “Lesbian Curves”

After the success of GAY SEX WEEK on my blog in October 2011, I decided to produce FAT SEX WEEK to celebrate sex for all bodies. This is especially inspired to counteract all of the media about sex around Valentine’s Day that’s all heteronormative/couplehood-oriented/body hegemonic. It’s a week of body liberation and sex and it’s going to be really fun! Check out all of the FAT SEX WEEK magic!

(All the photos in this post are Safe For Work as long as fat girls in lingerie are safe for your work. Fair warning.)

The best thing in the world to launch FAT SEX WEEK here at QueerFatFemme.com is a review of a totally QUEER FAT FEMME ON FEMME porn! Lesbian Curves was just released by that bombshell Courtney Trouble from her indie body positive porn production company TROUBLEfilms.

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This is hot babe Courtney Trouble wearing an outfit of lingerie I wrote in my porn review notes “Need to find those underwear and buy them.” Femme reviewer realness.

I have long admired and appreciated Courtney Trouble’s porn femmepire. She says in her blog, “My audience may be smaller than most, but knowing that my art is on track with a larger scheme of the adult industry makes me feel like I’m working towards a goal of normalizing, representing, and respectfully erotizing what may seem like a ‘fetish’ or a minority in mainstream sexual ideals.” This is exactly in line with why I think sexual content in identity work is so important–it is really powerful to own our sexual liberation and represent it in a way that is both sexy and honest. I love Courtney’s art!

On to the review! Courtney sent me a review DVD of Lesbian Curves and I watched it a little differently than I usually watch porn, which is usually picking and choosing scenes based on my mood. This time I went beginning to end, on the couch like a movie, and we even went into the special features the next day!

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Betty Blac. All of the stars of Lesbian Curves are hardcore babes.

Here is Courtney’s summary of Lesbian Curves:

Sultry body worship, sensuous kissing, playful taunting, sex toys, chemistry, and hard core lesbian fucking are what make Lesbian Curves the genre-busting adult film you’ve been craving. This full length feature is full of luscious skin, bodacious bodies and intense orgasms, brought to you by the fiercest femmes in porn, soaking wet and thirsty for passionate, curvaceous, gritty, real lesbian sex.

Starring Courtney Trouble, Kelly Shibari, Betty Blac, Sophia St James, Sandy Bottoms, Kitty Stryker, Peppermint Fatty, and Eden Alexander and shot in full HD.

I really adored that the cast is size diverse throughout the range of “fat” sizes–from inbetweenie on up. Check out the cast photos here (NOT safe for work). It’s also racially diverse, including a scene that is just two queer women of color.

It’s clear that the porn performers have real chemistry. Especially the scene between Kelly Shibari and Betty Blac. I had a long conversation while watching it about whether or not they were a couple in real life.

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The music is good, especially during the first partner scene. It’s almost like someone was DJing the porn. I like it when porn music actually flows well. It’s also luxuriously edited. There aren’t a lot of story lines in this movie except the scene between Kitty Stryker and Eden Alexander.

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There were no safe for work photos of Kitty Stryker from the press kit so I borrowed this from Kitty herself. She has two-toned hair and cute glasses in the movie. I had a long conversation during her scene about how to get Kitty to make out with me.

Sophia St. James has been a favorite of mine for a long time, ever since I saw her in Bordello (another amazing work by TROUBLEfilms). She has a great scene with Peppermint Fatty that involves a juicy strap-on. I’m interviewing Sophia later this week as part of FAT SEX WEEK.

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I’m pretty sure no nipples makes it safe for work.

A lot of the scenes are best described as “Sweet and hot.” There’s a deep tenderness and body appreciation between the performers. Not a lot of kink involved in the movie, which is a little bit of a bummer because, to be frank, a lot of those sweet asses could have used a vigorous spanking and/or some good biting. (Just saying. Kitty Stryker, call me.)

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I never consider time wasted watching porn if I learned a sex technique I can fold into my repertoire. Courtney does this thing in her scene where she holds her tits together and has her scene partner suck both nipples at once. This is not easily accomplished in real life but is fun to try!

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Watching porn that represents people whose bodies look like yours and who are doing sex the way you like to do sex is incredibly self-affirming. I thought that the intro to the video, where a fat girl (Courtney) is engaged in some serious self-loving body worship, was extremely powerful from an artistic and embodied point of view. And also just totally hot.

It can be hard to find porn that represents your body or how you like to do sex, which is why it is so crucial to support indie porn makers like Courtney and TROUBLEfilms (which has a pretty incredible queer, race, gender and size diaspora).

Lesbian Curves is $28 on dvd (which includes lots of extras, that I enjoyed greatly). You can download to own Lesbian Curves for $26.

I was talking to my friend Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasina in my kitchen the other day about Lesbian Curves and she said, “Were there queer fat femmes getting tied up? That’s what I want to see!” And we went on to basically write the sequel, Lesbian Curves Two: Femme on Femme Action and it involves a scene where LLPS whips someone while they recite the Femme Shark Manifesto. Courtney, if you want me and Leah to help you vision this we’re happy to get coffee.

A copy of Lesbian Curves is the perfect present for your lover, partner, bestie, future sexcapade for Valentine’s Day! Also, you can give the gift of a QueerPorn gift certificate from Courtney’s website!

Stay tuned for the next installment of FAT SEX WEEK tomorrow!

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