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2017-04-07

FAT SEX WEEK XXL: Fat FTMs Review the New Buck Off Sex Toy

Welcome one and all (who are knowingly entering into this adult-themed conversation)! This is Fat Sex Week XXL, the second edition of QueerFatFemme.com Fat Sex Week where I explore many facets of fat sex. Named for Magic Mike XXL, which was even better than the first Magic Mike, I’m hoping this edition is louder and fatter than ever before! Check this tag for all of the posts!

My pal Buck Angel created a sex toy specifically for trans men! I thought Fat Sex Week XXL was a great opportunity to find out from my Fat FTM friends if the stroker works for all bodies.

From the website: The Buck-OFF™ – The official Buck Angel® stroker is the first product designed specifically for transmen to engage in stroking fun. Every man loves to stroke, but not every man is the same. We engineered this using Buck’s vision for how the product should feel and fit. Buck has a mission to help transmen become comfortable with their bodies, and the Buck-OFF is an exceptional product for achieving this. Made with Perfect Fit’s ultra-soft SilaSkin™ the Buck-OFF is so pleasurable to touch it is addictive. This is Buck’s signature toy sized for the transman who has started transition. As Buck says “Loving your new body is what it’s all about.”

My friend Dari said, “Buck-OFF is the only toy, since my growth through testosterone, that took me to the edge and let me keep going and prolong my orgasm without becoming too sensitive to touch.”

At our Epic Seder last year we did an interactive play and Dari had the role of a guard. Such a hunk!

Another, anonymous friend, got a free Buck-OFF to review for Fat Sex Week XXL. Here’s what he had to say:

If you haven’t yet heard of it, the Buck-OFF is a sex toy designed by Buck Angel and specifically marketed to transmen. It’s a small, 3” or so sleeve made of a proprietary material called Silaskin- very soft and velvety to the touch. The inside of the sleeve is ribbed and its closed-end design enables suction when the user strokes.

Inside of the stroker.

I enjoyed the Buck-OFF very much. It took some experimenting to figure out what felt best and how to manipulate it properly, but the basic premise is pretty straightforward. Depending on the person, this could be a quick and easy go-to toy when you want to get off fast, or it could be more of a session toy when you want to take your time. For me, it took some time to find my way to the finish but it felt pretty damn good along the way.

A word on size. While a pre-T guy with larger-than-average genitals could find this product useful, the Buck-OFF is definitely designed for guys taking testosterone as growth is really necessary for the mechanics to work. The more growth you have, the better this will feel. I also found it helpful to get hard before using it as it made it easier to get a good “fit.”

Outside of the stroker.

Speaking of fit, I did find it a challenge to maintain the suction as consistently as I would have liked. If you have a larger mons pubis, you may have to work a little harder to find and keep the proper positioning. This was not insurmountable, just something to keep in mind if you have this body feature.

Other reviewers have indicated that lube is optional, but I would highly recommend using a few drops of a water-based lubricant inside the sleeve. It definitely helps with suction and also helps avoid potentially unpleasant friction in your most sensitive areas.

At a price point of $29.95, I think the Buck-OFF is a good value. Depending on vigor and frequency of use, I could see it wearing out over time but nothing good lasts forever.

I happily endorse the Buck-OFF and will definitely be adding it to my repertoire.

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Another friend (P) reached out to me on Facebook to give me feedback as a self-identified fat kinky FTM. He said that he had trouble using it as a stroker because of his fat being centered around the belly. (For those of you who don’t know, not all fat bodies are identical! We all carry fat in different places and the experience of someone with fat thighs vs a fat belly are different, even though they might wear the same exact size!) Because of the belly fat it was harder to reach the spot because the Buck-OFF is small.

However, because he’s a sex proclaimed kinky pervert, his intrepid exploration lead to these hacks. “Take a nipple pump cylinder (also used as a clit pump). Put the stroker over it inside out. Add lube. Now it is reachable and lil guy can fit inside it.” I think this is a call for Buck to design the Buck-OFF fleshlight, with a big handle like the Fleshlights built for different size genitalia.

The second hack my friend P had was the turn the whole stroker inside out (textured side out) and put it over a hitachi magic wand. It apparently is very pleasurable. It’s always nice to have some back-up ways to use a sex toy.

Word on the street is that Buck is in development on a new stroker for folks who have not taken T!

I hope these reviews are helpful!

2013-02-18

FAT SEX WEEK: Review of the Plus Size Liberator Wedge

After the success of GAY SEX WEEK on my blog in October 2011, I decided to produce FAT SEX WEEK to celebrate sex for all bodies. This is especially inspired to counteract all of the media about sex around Valentine’s Day that’s all heteronormative/couplehood-oriented/body hegemonic. It’s a week of body liberation and sex and it’s going to be really fun! Check out all of the FAT SEX WEEK magic!

(All the photos in this post are Safe For Work but the photos depict people in suggestive positions.)

When I told a friend of mine who shall remain nameless that I was planning a FAT SEX WEEK she immediately asked if I would review the Liberator Wedge for my website. Liberator sells a Plus Size Wedge and it seemed like the perfect addition to FAT SEX WEEK. I’ve been familiar with the Liberator furniture for years, they did a lounge at the Femme Mafia Masquerade in 2008.* The whole Liberator collection is incredible and luxurious.

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Since the Liberator folks haven’t upgraded the Wedge photos to include plus size participants in the Wedge lifestyle, I needed to include at least one photo of plus size babes. Photo by Kelsey Dickey for Rebel Cupcake.

Making the decision to invest in a piece of furniture for sex is a giant commitment not just in cost but also in space. Brooklyn is not a place to take storage lightly, so I didn’t really ever consider a Liberator an option in my life.

I put the call out to pals to see if someone wanted to loan me one before I made the commitment of asking for a review Wedge from the kind folks at Liberator. I got enough positives from friends, including a suggestion to use it as a “reading ramp” to prop your pillows on for reading in bed. Genius storage idea won out and I asked for my own Wedge.

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The Wedge, just casually laying about.

I had a few misgivings ahead of time. Number one is, why wouldn’t you just use a pillow to do what the Liberator does? I learned immediately upon receiving the Wedge that it’s not that simple, since the Liberator is made of this heavy duty foam material that’s way sturdier than a pillow but just pliant enough to be comfortable. Welcome to sex in the 21st Century! None of my fluffy pillows could possibly compete with this firm foam.

The Plus Size Wedge differs from the original Wedge in the dimensions. The original measures 24 x 14 x 7 whereas the plus measures 30 x 14 x 7. I was on it and I was glad for the extra space. I could feel firmly planted in the center of the Wedge and didn’t feel like I was falling off either side. If it was six inches smaller I would probably feel sort of insecure on it, like I might roll off. Insecurity is a total buzz kill for fat sex!

The Wedge is often marketed for its great leverage for amazing g-spot (and p-spot) stimulation. That was my favorite part. A toy that was sort of okay at g-spotting was phenomenal while on the Wedge (position: legs in the air and back on the wedge angle). The $105 investment in the Wedge is a great one when you think that how many of your sorta “Meh” toys sitting in your sex toy box will get a new life out of the new positions you can support on the Wedge.

Like many things involved in having fun sex, the Liberator Wedge requires an openness to being silly and a little planning. There is nothing “smooth” about getting onto this thing. I’ve tried it both in prepared “We’re going to try the Wedge tonight” and “Oh, we should get the Wedge!” moments. I’ll tell you, the “We should get the Wedge!” moment requires getting up and resetting the stage, which might not be the ideal for your sexual situations if you’re one of those heat of the moment hard to get revved up again people.

Also, getting onto the Wedge is sort of hilarious. I don’t have a photograph of this, but I sat on it once and almost entirely rolled into a backward somersault in a red babydoll chemise which was hilarious for my fellow wedge tester to witness and something we laughed about for a long time. But I don’t know if I could have recovered from the foolishness with a brand new partner. So be warned to settle in slowly.

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This girl looks like a pin-up on the Wedge. I bet she looked really foolish settling in for this photo shoot!

My fellow wedge tester reported that her arms were significantly less tired than usual. “More bang for your buck,” she said. I laughed heartily.

The foam really holds up, it’s firm and I can easily stay in position. I think the Liberator Plus Size Wedge is totally worth the investment of money and storage space. The Plus Size Wedge comes in a ton of colors and prints, including leopard, and the microfiber cover is easily removable and machine washable. I’m seriously considering the Plus Size Ramp for my next trick.

Thanks Liberator!

*A big room full of sex furniture at a party is a pretty amazing feat, Rachael throws incredible events.

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