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2021-09-05

Debbie Harry and the Owls

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Every single day I leave my house, whether I want to or not, to go on a walk in the forest. Typically it’s during Golden Hour so I can connect to the sunset and am most likely to see banana slugs if they grace me with their presence.

I am always listening to music on a bluetooth speaker because there are cougars, coyotes, bears and other predators I don’t want to run into and I think they’ll avoid me if they hear me coming. They don’t want to run into me, either.

Yesterday as I was entering the forest from my neighborhood Heart of Glass by Blondie started playing. I thought about the first time I was at a party with Debbie Harry.

They just kept passing out free drinks! It was like Wonderland!

I was 29 years old in New York City and at my first celebrity party. Many years before I adopted the mantra “I belong in every room I walk into” (THANK YOU Myleik Teele for this gem and everything you have taught me). I was STUNNED to be in that room but loved every minute.

It was a party celebrating the opening of Cathy Opie’s mid-career retrospective at the Guggenheim and my group wasn’t technically on the list for the after party but we knew people who were there who said we should come to the bar at the Maritime hotel.

Hot party tip for post-pandemic times–if you show up looking cute and say the right names to the door person they might let you in. We got in! I saw Debbie Harry, a childhood idol! John Waters was there, too. I was very very excited.

My friend Silas Howard in front of a portrait of him from Cathy’s exhibit at the Guggenheim!

Cell phone photos were bad at that time and I don’t take pics of celebs without their consent but just seeing cool folks I recognized who made work I admired was a thrill.

Back to last night. I walk into the forest having had that memory. A little down the path I heard the first few bars of James’ Laid and started dancing–I startled a big bird that flew across my path.

Instead of disappearing into the woods it landed on a branch nearby and watched me. Well, we watched each other for ten minutes. It didn’t seem to care that I danced and played music. I took grainy cell phone photos. She was as into spying on me as I was marveling at getting to see her.

She moved her head around with that adorable flat face. I don’t know what kind she was, much smaller than the only other owl encounter I’ve had in the forest (a Great Horned Owl–freaking HUGE).

It was magical. I was radiating joy at seeing her.

It occurred to me that I felt as thrilled to see an owl in nature as I was to see Debbie Harry at a party. And between living in NYC and LA I’ve been to more parties with Debbie Harry than I’ve encountered owls in the wild.

My goal is to encounter way more owls and maybe post pandemic sometime just have a conversation with Debbie if she’s into it. Never any pressure. I’m the gal at the party in the far corner having conversations not mingling in the crowd. Big crowds are not my thing anymore.

It is my practice to set an intention for my forest walks, usually it’s to get to joy and wonder. In a pandemic when the world is falling apart, healthcare systems are collapsing and the government is abandoning the most vulnerable, this practice is truly about exercising my own mental and emotional strength so that I may continue in my work tomorrow.

I believe that when we feel joy, we enable the universal consciousness to use our energy to empower others. Like a battery on a Prius replaces the need for fossil fuel in a hybrid engine. Little kids radiate joy all the time like this–they are closer to the consciousness than most of us. As grown-ups we lose our play and our curiosity if we don’t cultivate it.

Your suffering alleviates nothing for others. Your joy is inspiration to others to find theirs. Prayer and joy are frequently the most powerful thing we have to offer in a world turned upside down so it might come together in a better more sustainable way.

We did not come here to fix a broken world. We came here to create the world of our dreams.


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2010-03-31

Link Farm! (and other bacon & cupcake related news)

Hey y’all, just a little housekeeping post.

First of all, I have started to tend to a little link farm on Tumblr. QueerFatFemme.Tumblr.Com.

I live in Brooklyn with no plot of land and no way to keep a window box of flowers, so instead I have decided to create a virtual space for sharing of art, events, community resources and the other flotsam and jetsam that comes my way. People email me a lot asking what’s going on in NYC or to get resources from me or give them to me. I love to make connections for people and entertain and that’s what the tumblog will do. It even looks a little bit like my high school newspaper layout, cut and paste style.

It feeds to my twitter and facebook fan page (it’s new, fan me!), so you don’t need to add the tumblog to your RSS feed unless that’s how you want to make it happen. I’m not going to boss you about how to manage your social networking and information gathering on the internet.

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I’m producing a new MONTHLY Thursday drag/burlesque show and dance party! The info is below for the first one (it’s a Thursday thing but not the same Thursday each month since I travel a lot).

Thursday, May 6, 20FEMME * Brooklyn, NY
Bevin Branlandingham Presents
Rebel Cupcake
10PM-2AM Dancing; show 10:30-11:30 * $5
Sugarland: 221 N 9th St @ Roebling, Brooklyn, NY

Bevin presents a new monthly Thursday night for queer fat femmes & our friends, fans and cupcake afficianados! Drag & Burlesque show in a Joan Jett/Pat Benetar theme (some seating available). Music at house party level–great for dancing and for mingling.

DJ Shomi Noise on the decks!

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Bevin and The Baconettes came back for another turn (remember us from Miss Lez) on the stage of the biggest queer dance party in Brooklyn, That’s My Jam! We performed a group number to Madonna’s “Hanky Panky”. I have always wanted to perform that number. You can check us out again at Hey Queen in April.

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Bevin and the Baconettes L-R: AfroTitty, Hurricane Mae, Bevin Branlandingham, Lola Dean

Photos by Nogga Schwartz, they are SO GOOD! Check them out–clicky here

My next post is a doozy! Stay tuned!

2009-05-07

International No Diet Day!

I finally have the internet again! I’m in my new place, greatly relieved to be reunited with my stuff, have my Muppet Pets settled in and be slowly but surely creating a space that is the sort of sanctuary I haven’t had in quite some time!

Yesterday was International No Diet Day. I had a sort of social hiatus during my move so that I could focus on the things that needed to get done and was relieved to celebrate the end of that and the beginning of a fabulous summer outdoor season with a BBQ at my friends’ Deb and Anne’s place. They have a gorgeous backyard which is perfect for parties.

We’ve been having an insane amount of rain in Brooklyn, but it stopped for the afternoon–just long enough to enjoy the BBQ and the company.

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My look was a little bit Serial Mom. I’m loving my collared cotton wrap dresses these days. Also featured are Bryn and Taueret. Taureret is raising money for her Fierce, Fat and Fly for Queers for Economic Justice amazing race adventure.

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We celebrated bodies in all of their forms, but mostly just by being together and goofing off. This is Loren offering me a ticket to the Gun Show.

Golda of Body Love Wellness posted a great list of 16 Reasons Not to Diet for INDD and joined us for the festivities. The picture I got of her wasn’t great, so I won’t post it. But imagine her among these lovelies.
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My friend Eden in a vintage, flowing frock.

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Deb’s fabulous slip dress layering. Over jeans with a comfy sweater. An important reminder that you can easily keep wearing slip dresses and lingerie in all sorts of weather!

Muse brought 30 gourmet cupcakes, which I delightfully distributed to our crowd of about 25-30 folks.
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This BBQ was a great example of my favorite kind of activism. A fun, easygoing celebration of people, bodies, and friendship with the addition of cupcakes, chicken wings and champagne punch.

What did you do for INDD?

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