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2020-06-20

Pride is a Rebellion

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(This post is a series of daily letters from me to my future children reporting from the emerging paradigm.)

Dear Kids:

Last night I was reflecting on having a quiet Friday night in June. How just 10 years ago I would have looked at that as a failure. I was so enlivened by going out and celebrating Pride that I didn’t want it to stop and soaked up every opportunity.

Living in NYC meant a Pride festival pretty much every weekend (and, when we were lucky, the Mermaid parade would land on the weekend between Brooklyn Pride and NYC Pride). I called June “Gay Stamina Month” for a long time.

I was taking last night easy because this morning I did a very Day Gay event (11AM start time). I taught aerobics in a cannabis healing event for LGBTQIA+ folks and their allies as a fundraiser for Project Q. (For more info on Project Q and what they do, check out my podcast episode with Sabine Maxine who is the Director of Programs.)

Rest is an important component of self care for everyone, and especially for me in my healing work. I consider teaching Fat Kid Dance Party a healing.

I was remembering last night I used to live at this pace: going going going burn out / get sick / rest a little going going going / repeat. Now it’s rest, teach/agitate/rebel, rest, heal myself, rest. I’m soooo grateful for the internet that enables me to live someplace where I can rest and heal effectively and still participate in the world and connecting to folks. The internet, our global brain, is what is making this time in herstory so possible.

When I produced my first event at Stonewall I learned from the manager that they call Stonewall a Rebellion not a Riot. It’s an important distinction that I think is important to remember.

Our foremothers (primarily Black Trans women and butches) were rebelling against consistent persistent abuse from the police. Pride began as a rebellion, a protest.

The fact that today we get to “party” for Pride is it’s own kind of rebellion. Queer folks loving themselves and partying and dancing in celebration is rebelling against homophobia/transphobia/systems of oppression. But what’s most important is that we rebel in the spirit of everyone being liberated. I wish I had centered that idea more concretely when I was deep in my plus size party girl days but it’s never too late to learn and live our values.

My hope for you is that you remember that just because something is a law doesn’t mean it’s ethical. (Sodomy laws were still on the books in many states until 2003 when the Supreme Court released Lawrence v Texas.)

And that you know how important it is to distinguish rebellions from riots.

Happy Pride!

xoxo,

Mom

Lavender foxgloves are near the highways when I drive to town but there are only two plants in the forest along the path I walk. So special, and blooming just for Pride month!

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2013-06-03

June Events! June 7th big ol’ Brooklyn Pride Kick Off Party & June 30th Afternoon Tea Dance!

Welcome to Gay Stamina Month. The month in June where every weekend has a pride event in some borough (including Mermaid Pride, I mean, the Coney Island Mermaid Parade). I cut off my schedule early in May. Seeing it swell with events I just decided not to plan anything else. For my sanity!

FYI Rebel Cupcake is on hiatus until September, when it will return as a quarterly extravaganza!

The BIG THINGS I’m excited to share with you are as follows:

JUNE 7th!! This FRIDAY! The Yes Ma’am crew is kicking off the weekend of Brooklyn Pride (which is June 8th) and coincidentally the Big Fat Flea (June 9th) with an amazing off the chain body positive dance party.

We are adding DJ D’hana Perry to our line-up! Their company is Chub Rub Productions. Totally perfect for a body positive queer dance party!

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Photo by Kelsey Dickey for Rebel Cupcake.

We have special guest celebrity Kelli Jean Drinkwater from Sydney, Australia in the house roaming around, looking fabulous and hostessing during the evening! I’m so excited to have Kelli Jean at Yes Ma’am!!

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We are actually building a TWERK WALL. It’s going to have decoupage. Inspired by this situation, basically we are hiring a carpenter to build us a TWERK WALL to have at our dance party. If you build it, they will twerk.

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All the info on the party is here, RSVP on the Facebook event, and if you purchase tickets pre-sale you get a free drink! Save two bucks on admission by joining our email list!


I have taken over one third of the hostessing duties of the Lunchbox Queer Co-Working at Beast every Friday! If you’re a freelancer/student/flexible Friday schedule person, bring your books or your laptop to this great restaurant in Brooklyn to get some work done in good company! It’s phenomenal networking, really fun, very well air conditioned and the food is delicious.

11-4pm, Fridays, Beast Restaurant, Corner of Vanderbilt & Bergen in Brooklyn!

The Facebook event page is updated with the new date every week, so “join” if you want to get updates!

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Later this month, you should mark your calendar for the second installment of our afternoon party, WHAM BAM! The first one was last week and it was so much fun! I have always wanted to create a mellow, afternoon/early evening soiree and WHAM BAM is exactly it. We’re at this amazing swanky bar called Huckleberry in South Williamsburg, that has a reputation for incredible cocktails and great food. Lounging with queers in a gorgeous backyard is one of my favorite things to do!

Sunday, June 30th (after the pride parade in Manhattan) from 4pm-10pm swing by and hang out!

All the info is here as well as our Facebook event!

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Yes Ma'am $5 mint julep! Enjoyed on the patio!
The Mint Julep drink special was a hit last time! This time we’re doing a $5 Cranberry Violet cocktail special!


See you out and about! I also decided that instead of the Mermaid Parade on June 22nd this year I’m going to Punk Island (same day/time as Mermaid Parade) dressed as a mermaid! Stage 4 is hosted by my pals at Brooklyn Transcore! Queer bands all on one stage! Bad ass way to have it all.

If you want to get my Facebook round-ups of events, friend me on my Rebel Gateau page! I actually try to keep my personal page curated to folks I know in real life, but I want to be able to connect to folks who want to get invited to events on the blue grid.

2012-06-15

Bevin’s New York Pride Guide 2012

Gay Stamina Month is upon us! And there are five weekends in June this year! So much time for homo revelry! I had a reader email and ask what was going on for Pride and my answer is “everything” but here’s what my Gay Agenda looks like for the next week and change.

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Photo by Amos Mac

#1 Rebel Cupcake
It’s my party so it goes first.

THURSDAY, JUNE 21st!! Kicking off NYC Pride Weekend. The theme is Let’s Get Physical, in honor of Crystal Light Dance Aerobic Championships from the 80s.

10PM-2AM Dancing; show 11ish * $7
($2 off admission if you are on our texty texty list)
Late night dancing til 4a
Sugarland: 221 N 9th St @ Roebling, Brooklyn, NY
(3 blocks from the Bedford L subway stop)

Rebel Cupcake: a flamboyant dance party for all shapes & flavors! WINNER of Go Magazine Awards for Best Emcee (Bevin) and Most Eclectic Crowd!

Performers:
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*Axon D’Luxe
Electrotext wordsmith and performance artist teaches us how to reclaim our bodies from trauma through aerobic exercise.
[http://www.axondluxe.com/]

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Photo by Jeep Wheat
*Afrotitty
Ferocious Burlesque Glitter Baby Supreme

*Bevin Branlandingham
Your Femmecee reclaims the President’s Physical Fitness Test
[http://queerfatfemme.com/]

More info available on the Rebel Cupcake page!

#2. Fuck You Dad! A Femme Pride Event
SUNDAY, June 17th, 7PM @ a Private Brooklyn Residence.

My fabulous and smart roommate Damien Luxe is producing it and it is going to be really amazing. I’m performing a piece from my memoir, not about my Dad (who, ironically, I have made a lot of peace with over the last couple of years) but about a Daddy Top I once had a scene with.

“Daddy is a fabulous sexuality … and ‘dad’ is a problem! Ya know it’s true. So on Sunday June 17, come to a variety show, ritual to celebrate femme pride & end patriarchy, backyard hangout & birthday party on the theme of Fuck You Dad!
// Show @ 8p *sharp* //”

Performing artists include:
Bevin Brandlandingham
Damien Luxe
Heather Acs
Jessica Halem
LeRoi Prince
NathAnn Carerra
Princess Tiny Meats
Shomi Noise

More info on the Facebook event.

#3 Queer Pride Party presented by Ellie
FRIDAY, June 22, 11PM in Manhattan.

She’s been doing Choice Cunts for 6 years and she is retiring from nightlife production! Come see Ellie off with a performance from Trans Hearthrob Rocco Katastrophe!

More info at the Facebook event.

#4 BACON BOOBIES presented by WOAHMONE and The Spectrum
SATURDAY, June 23, 10PM-4AM in Bushwick at the Spectrum

I went to my first Woah Mone party last week and it was spectacular! Full of feminine focus from all gender presentations. I felt my inner lesbian heart burst for joy while dancing to an overlay of “Mother Maiden Crone” during a classic rock song. Also Bacon is in the title. And boobies. How can this be wrong?

More info at the Facebook event.

#5 Everybooty Pride Extravaganza
SUNDAY, June 24 Noon to 10PM, Dekalb Market in Brooklyn

That’s right, it’s during the NYC Pride Parade. If you want to avoid that hustle and bustle for a different, less intense hustle, this is the party for you. Vendors, performances. It’s going to be an epic day. I might go, but probably will be at the beach.

More info and presale tickets at their Facebook event.

#6 Queer Pride at Riis Beach
Sunday, June 24, Whenever
Point yourself to Jacob Riis Beach and to the first Bay on the far left. You’ll find the queers.

This is the big alternative to Pride day shenanigans. Just the ocean and some homos. Likely what I will end up doing as a mellow end to the Gay Agenda.

More info at the Facebook event.

#7 Dyke March
SATURDAY, June 23 at 4PM, Bryant Park

It’s put on by an all volunteer force. Check out the Facebook page and the holey army being put together by Coral Short.

#8 Trans Day of Action
FRIDAY, June 22 at 3PM, Washington Square Park

“We call on our Trans and Gender Non-Conforming (TGNC) community and on all of our allies from many movements to join us for the 8th Annual Trans Day of Action for Social and Economic Justice. We as TGNC People of Color (POC) recognize the importance of working together alongside other movements to change the world we want to see. We live in a time when oppressed peoples including people of color, immigrants, youth and elders, people with disabilities, women and TGNC people, and poor people are underserved, face higher levels of discrimination, heightened surveillance and experience increased violence at the hands of the state. We must unite and work together towards dismantling the transphobia, racism, classism, sexism, ageism, ableism, homophobia and xenophobia that permeates our movements for social justice. Let’s come together to let the world know that TGNC rights will not be undermined and together we will not be silenced!”

More info at the Facebook event!

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