In the last couple of years as I've learned what is really important to me and learned to let go of what isn't, how to say no to things and how to check in with myself about what I am doing and how I am doing it. Moreover, I've learned how to identify for myself what is important to me, how to turn off all the voices of what I "should" be doing or who I "should" become, what my body "should" look like or how much I "should" love myself even when it's hard. I got tired of shoulding and wanted to instead be living and enjoying my life. Thus, I have created a practice whereby I check in with myself about my priorities. I try to do this every week, but basically it comes up for me when I feel off balance.
I am on News 12 New York in a piece about businesses with gay employees that offer health insurance. Re/Dress was selected and as an employee who is gay and has health insurance, the newscaster asked me “Will you and your partner be getting married?” And I said “I want News 12 viewers to know I am single.”
Anyway, they said in the report, “Bevin Branlandingham, who is single, doesn’t want to get married for insurance.” And then I talk about how getting divorced is expensive so you shouldn’t get married for health insurance.
I am going to try to somehow get a copy of this news report for my own digital media library, but in the meantime try clicking this link to News 12:
It might give you some hooey about being a subscriber to a cable provider but I was able to work around it by going to “Top Stories.” It’s dated June 30, 2011 and dateline: Boerum Hill.
So far no one who saw me on the news has contacted me about a marriage proposal, but I’m still hopeful. Though I’m not sure I am so interested in dating the News 12 viewer crowd. No offense.
But the real question is, when my relationship status changes, do I give News 12 the exclusive or do I go straight to TMZ?