August Party Agenda

Hello Brooklynites, New York Citians and other folks who might be in and around Brooklyn and wanting to hang out with the nicest, funnest, awesomest body positive crowd in New York City queer nightlife!

Yes Ma'am has two amazing parties this month we're stoked to share with you!

Yes Ma'am's WHAM BAM, our afternoon party (goes from 4pm-10pm) is so much fun! It's like the Noxema Commercial you never realized you were dreaming of until it came true. DJ Average Jo plays an ecclectic mix of oldies, reggae, motown, 90s hip hop, and Hall & Oates. There are beer specials and a burger special at the upcoming WHAM BAM on August 18th! All of the info is on our Facebook page.

Yes Ma'am's flagship party is happening at the mansion in Bed Stuy on August 24th! Saturday night, great dance jams and really hot people. The mansion is air conditioned but we're also bringing in tons of box fans to add to the windswept Dirty Dancing dance party vibe (it's very "I carried a watermelon" and I might get Jacqueline to mix up a fresh watermelon punch situation in that spirit but I haven't talked to her or Jo or Nicky about it so this is between us, readers). All the info is on our Facebook invite!

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Mind Diet: Ways I’m Tuning my Radio Dial to Joy

I told Shaina about the three events and she said, "You're doing great! These things are just telling you you're on the right path! What you need to do is change your radio frequency to joy and this stuff won't affect you so hard."

She explained that we vibrate on different frequencies. It's very similar to how thoughts control your life (see Louise Hay's You Can Heal Your Life for a great primer on the law of attraction). If you're on a dial where you think everything is against you, shift it up a few notches and vibrate on joy. Focus on happiness, silliness, playfulness, creativity.

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Flower Bois, Summer Trend in Butch Fashion

Nicky pointed out to me at the last WHAM BAM! that floral prints are all the rage in the queer scene--especially for the masculine of center crowd. "Flower bois," they said (pronounced "bwah" here). "They're everywhere."

They were right. I've been seeing it everywhere. Florals are all over menswear. I love it, especially because it's a little gender bendy. It's the same reason I love pink on butches--it's one of my favorite colors and I like butches. Together, it is pleasing. I love a bold floral print and I love seeing it on my fashionable friends.

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