I Lost A Bunch Of Weight And Feel Really Complicated About It

I Lost a Bunch of Weight and Feel Really Complicated About it

I made a decision once I realized I was losing weight to be extremely neutral about it with myself. I even made it a spiritual challenge, to see myself as just a soul having a human experience, that my body is going to change no matter what I do (hello, aging) and that this was just another change. I don’t want to feel bad or glad if I do end up increasing weight in the future. I want to accept it as another phase my body is going through.

I also wanted to really live the phrase Health at Every Size. I'm willing to do the work of knowing what my body needs to feel healthy and do the work to love myself at every size I'm at. If I am going to live the belief that all bodies are good bodies I am going to live it with myself.

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