What The Heck Is Inflammation And Why Is Drinking Anti-Inflammatory Tea Good For You?

What the Heck is Inflammation and Why is Drinking Anti-Inflammatory Tea Good For You?

My friend Mucha just moved to LA and she's renting out our guest room briefly while she gets settled. It's nice to have someone to teach all of my newfound information about the neighborhood and living in LA. She used the same movers we used, she already has her driver's license, she's getting stuff done.

She's also getting hives. It's probably a weed allergy she hasn't been exposed to yet, so she's doing the things you do like taking Zyrtec and whatnot, but I suggested drinking my Hibiscus Coconut tea to help with the inflammation.

She said to me, "What the heck is inflammation anyway?" (She didn't say heck, actually.) She's right, people throw around health buzzwords but they rarely get explained in this mile a minute internet world.

I'm going to tell you my understanding of inflammation.

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LA Week Four: We’re Getting There

LA Week Four: We’re Getting There

Tomorrow marks four weeks since we took possession of our dream house / super quirky rental. I kind of can't believe that it's been so long because it has gone by so fast.

We've been so focused on getting the house put together while trying to manage all those new things that affect how you settle in somewhere that it is hard to feel that we're in LA for real. If you ignore the time of year and weather, which is very special and wonderful, I could be anywhere learning new stuff. Where is the bank? Where is the grocery store? Which grocery store do I supplement Trader Joe's with? How many times can we go to Home Depot before we become a lesbian cliché, and do I get a pass for a certain period of time after moving? Where is the most ethical/farm to table butcher shop? (The last question still unanswered.)

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See You Laters Instead Of Goodbyes: My Last Moments As A New Yorker And First Stop On The Road

See You Laters instead of Goodbyes: My Last Moments as a New Yorker and First Stop on the Road

Pro-tip: if you know someone going through an intense cross-country move, text them "How can I help?" Pro-tip: if you are going through a cross-country move and someone asks how they can help, take them up on it. I have had to work through some intense "I'm an independent babe, I need to appear perfect" in order to be in a place to receive help. I'm so glad I have done that work because we really needed that help. If I had said, "No, we're okay!" I would have lost out on hanging out with Victoria AND likely devolved into sobbing and fighting with Dara.

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One Night At MIX Festival

One Night at MIX Festival

Every year I struggle with how to describe MIX Festival and it's magic and wonder when I plug the event on my blog and social media. People fly in from all over the world to gather for this experimental film festival/queer community gathering/installation art. After my epic Wednesday night in the MIX Factory I thought I would just give it a good Bevin narrative, maybe that'll tell you what's up with MIX.

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How Dunkin Donuts Turned Me Into A Sports Fan

How Dunkin Donuts Turned Me Into a Sports Fan

It's pretty clear I love tea. I especially love iced tea in the summertime. Four years ago, Dunkin Donuts really upped their iced tea game and I was hooked. They are everywhere in the North East--there are literally three between my house and my partner's house and we only live about a 12 minute drive apart. Because they are so pervasive I find myself there getting an iced tea or a coffee every couple of days. Also they have almond milk, which is great for me as dairy is a no go much of the year due to my allergies.

I love tea, and I also LOVE a coupon.

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Saying Goodbye To NYC: On Leaving, Change, Grief And Anxiety

Saying Goodbye to NYC: On Leaving, Change, Grief and Anxiety

I have this grief about leaving Brooklyn that hits me in waves. I am profoundly curious and excited about this new chapter in my life. I haven't experienced a drastic geographic change in 15 years. I'm a totally different person than I was when I left CA. I'm so curious what it is going to be like. But also, I'm bummed about leaving a lot of the things I love about NYC behind. I'm working really hard not to let my grief and anxiety interfere with my ability to love the process and let go of NYC in a mindful way.

When I was 29 and my fiance had just broken up with me and I was kind of a disaster, my friend Kelli Dunham gave me a cd about the grief process. I didn't realize at the time that you could have grief about things that weren't death. I just thought you powered through yucky feelings by ignoring them. Learning how to deal with grief and anxiety has been a long road and I'm still working through it.

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How I’m Leaning Into Decluttering

How I’m Leaning into Decluttering

A couple of years ago I had my first full reading with my astrologer, Katie Sweetman of Empowering Astrology. She told me that I should be decluttering. It was a big spiritual thing I needed/wanted to do but because of elements of my chart I don't remember, it was also something that was hard for me. Both a struggle and something that I needed to happen for my spiritual growth.

In the Earthly realm I can tell you straight up why decluttering is hard for me--I moved 13 times by the time I was 13 years old. I had a working class single mom, so between financial uncertainty, divorce stuff, and moving towards the best public school district she could, we were on the run a lot. As a kid, coming home from summer camp to a new place is jarring. I have a thing with wanting to feel settled in a space and I think having stuff is part of that. It's also from a place of having been really poor/broke in my life and wanting to make sure I can be safe and have the things I need. I'm a pantry always full just in case kind of person. State of emergency and stores are closed? My house is where you want to be.

In the past couple of years I've been leaning towards late in life minimalism. Well, my version of it, which, compared to how I used to be, will appear way more simplified. (I love glitter, accessories and flamboyance too much to truly ever do minimalism.)

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I’m Totally Having So Much Fun On Snapchat Here’s Why

I’m Totally Having So Much Fun on Snapchat Here’s Why

Recently a couple of bloggers I like mentioned that they were Snapchatting. When I got a new phone I decided to try it again.

Snapchat is so different now and I’m really enjoying it!

Here are some things I’ve been doing over at my Snapchat story:

Tours of where I’m at (I travel soooo much sometimes, especially in the last few months)
Narrating my favorite parts about NYC
Nightlife adventures—the last couple of weeks I’ve been going out a lot!
Cute videos of Macy
Tiny diary-like snippets (e.g. a couple weeks ago I talked about how like how I leave blank space in the calendar intentionally so I have time for mini side adventures)
Goofing off with my friends (When I hang with Victoria chances are she might be scantily clad and when I hang with Jacqueline she will usually do a boob shimmy for my snapchat viewers)
Dance party at the Bed Bath and Beyond (that happened with Dara)
A tour of a sparkly and amazing Femme apartment (Hi Bridget!)
Wedding venue I officiated

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Untapped Cruising Territory: The Park Slope Food Coop

I've long postulated that the Park Slope Food Coop, a fairly legendary place in Brooklyn, is teeming with queers I don't know. I mean, it's teeming with people I do know since I can count thirty members who are friends of mine without really trying. But since most of those folks I know from social situations and everyone has to grocery shop, there's probably a ton of members that are hot queers I wouldn't otherwise run into.

The event: My friend Victoria needed to get some grocery shopping done for a big party she was throwing and she knew I wanted to come check out the Food Coop. I already know about the strict membership work requirements (if you can't get someone to cover your shift your penalty is two workshifts and it goes up exponentially from there), the abundance of cheaper organic groceries and how you can't shop without being a member. But you can visit.

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FAT SEX WEEK: Sex Playlists and Fat Appreciation

It is empowering to have an identity. It's empowering to read about other folks who date fat people in spite of what society tells them is sexy or attractive. It is empowering to recognize that society tells you to be attracted to one thing and to swing your authentic preferences another way and work towards body empowerment.

What I find hard about it is that "chubby chaser" and "fat admirer" are current labels that, to me, seem to be fetishes and not appreciation. I don't want someone to find me attractive because I'm fat or in spite of being fat. I want someone who is attracted to me because of how being fat is part of who I am and also because I'm a babe. Not because it's a deviant sexuality to like fat girls.

I love fetishes and open sexuality but since most American women are above a size 14 doesn't that make us not that unusual?

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