Begin Again

So, you see, dear readers, I am at yet another begin again crossroads. That law firm job I got in January that I was so stoked about? Totally bad fit. I won't get into the specifics, but after about a month of thinking it was going well, it just wasn't. And I was miserable and working really hard. Certainly not making enough money to be worth the amount of stress I felt. And so, after three and a half months, I am going my own way again. As a Capricorn overachiever I can be very committed to things and get mired into it even if I am not enjoying it.

It was a shock when it happened but the relief and peace I have felt since it was decided I wouldn't be working at the firm anymore told me this was the right path. Decision making is a self-correcting process, I believe that even when you make a choice there is guidance about that. If you make the wrong choice, there will be a gentle (and then not so gentle) nudge away from it until you get on the path you're meant to be on. Sort of like when I was engaged to someone who I know 4.5 years later was a terrible fit but at the time was undeterred and had no perspective. That was a self-correcting process. And, even though it was devastating at the time, I feel great about the life I have now.

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Introducing Gay Sex Week and Some Everyday Glitter

Hi friends! Life has been steady rolling lately. I am trying to lean into the big changes in my life as best as I can. Working with a lot of fear and scarcity stuff but being gentle, really really gentle with myself. Self-care is my dreamy boyfriend right now. My steady, number one priority. This is a moment by moment choice and requires an awful lot of checking in with myself, honesty and sweetness.

The great part of doing all this self-care is that I am able to really enjoy life. I've been up to fun things!

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Mailbag: Can I Meet Single Hotties at Rebel Cupcake?

Hi [Name Withheld]!

Thanks for your compliment about my blog! Rebel cupcake has two ways to stay in touch--there is a Facebook group (if this link doesn't work search for the group named, aptly, "Rebel Cupcake") where you'll be automatically invited to each event and a text list where I text you once a month and remind you about the party. The text list gets in for $2 off the cover price to all of my events.

As for your question about unattached butches, the thing to know is lots of the folks in the queer community, while they may present masculine of center, don't always identify as butch. You might find some of them attractive if you like butches but it is always best to let other folks tell you their identity preferences instead of assuming.

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Brooklyn Queer Nightlife–Rebel Cupcake Salute to John Waters on Thursday, September 8th

I have a long and spotty relationship to John Waters movies. Much like certain famous authors whose work I didn't follow in a proper order, the first John Waters movie I saw was Pecker and I hated it, didn't understand it and I thus wasn't interested in seeing any more, including Hairspray. I know, a fat girl with a bouffant who hasn't seen Hairspray, odd, right? And I used to watch Divine videos on you tube but had never seen Female Trouble.

Fast forward a few years and I've had some friends walk me through it and now I'm a huge fan. I suggest starting with something like Hairspray or Cry-Baby. Johnny Depp as a swoon-worthy greaser. See exhibit below.

When Glenn Marla told me he was thinking about doing performance art about how many times he's been asked to portray Divine I knew a John Waters Rebel Cupcake was just the thing.

Thursday, September 8th, 2011 * Brooklyn, NY

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