Brooklyn Queer Dance Party Rebel Cupcake Halloween Extravaganza!

I really enjoy getting to celebrate Halloween every day. I'm never shy to wear a costume. But, in New York City Halloween gets a little overwhelming for me. Often I don't go out at all on Halloween. Each year since 2009 I've produced an early Halloween party--a chance for folks to trot out their costumes in a cheerful environment and not get crushed by drunk people on the subway.

This year I wanted to do a 50s diner halloween party theme and I was inspired to incorporate my favorite fictional 50s diner--the Peach Pit, the 90210 gang's favorite hang out. Thursday, October 18th it all goes down at Sugarland!

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Q & A with Gaga Feminism Author J. Jack Halberstam and Book Giveaway

When I was asked to be part of the Gaga Feminism blog tour, I engaged my collaborator and dear friend Taylor Black to help me write some questions for QueerFatFemme.com. We've had bourbon/coke zero/cherry juice discussions about Jack Halberstam's work before and Gaga Feminism, out this week from Beacon Press, is the latest in the academic arsenal of the USC professor, blogger, and ubiquitous Queer Studies scholar.

Check out what Jack has to say about desire, feminism, Lady Gaga and failure below, and Beacon Press is giving away a copy of the book at the bottom of this post!

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This is What Happened for Bevin at the Femme Conference 2012

It's really special to peacock for other Femmes. Put on what makes you feel the best and admire others. For me it is not at all about Femme competition, it's about how one piece of glitter sparkles on its own but how hundreds of pieces of glitter shine infinitely more brilliantly. But here at Femme Conference we're shining for each other and it's ablaze and beautiful.

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Rebel Cupcake TV!

I know most of my readers aren't in Brooklyn. I also know if they are, many of them are like comedian Kelli Dunham and refer to 11 PM as "The middle of the night." I've excitedly had the last few installments of Rebel Cupcake videotaped and edited by the talented Laura Delarato and I thought in my absence I would leave you with a few episodes to watch!

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Brooklyn Queer Dance Party Magic Times August 16th

This month I'm doing a theme based on my favorite artist of all times, Lucinda Williams. She's not dance party per se (or at all) but I love her song Lonely Girls. "Sparkly rhinestones/pretty dresses/fancy hairdos worn by lonely girls." I just imagine these gorgeous feminine archetypes sitting at the bar and being approached by cowboys or other lonely girls. And we all know cowboys are frequently fond of each other. So it's a big ol' queer free for all and it is going to be gorgeous!

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Summer Update and Magic Mike

When I embarked on the journey to write a memoir this summer, stepping out in faith with no book deal lined up or anything, I swore I wouldn't end up like so many of my favorite bloggers who sort of disappear when they are writing a book. And then I did it! I disappeared. When you pour yourself into something 1,000 words at a time and it's a lot of hard stuff you don't necessarily want to look at or think about it gets really difficult. So it's all, write, self-care, write, live a new adventure over here.

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Rebel Cupcake on Thursday! Sarah McLachlan Tribute Show Next Week! Queer Memoir Decades, too!

On July 23, a Monday night, I am performing a lesbolesque interpretation of Sarah McLachlan's "Possession." My act is based on a tie die bandanna I bought at Michfest in 2001 and about Femme identity.

The entire show is a queer performance art tribute to the album Fumbling Toward Ecstacy, with each track on the album represented. It is truly a one of a kind show that should not be missed.

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SUMMER BEACH READS: Kate Bornstein’s A Queer and Pleasant Danger

And beyond just telling us the who, where, what and how of her life, she's extremely revealing about her process. Not just some of the deepest parts of her personality (as Kate says in the book, "Life's better without secrets,"), like her diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, but also the internal process of what it was like to be here. She cracks open her heart and shows us the internal realities of growing-up and adulthood prior to transitioning, many ongoing touchstones of what it was like knowing she was "girl," how she related to it and how she either leaned into it or away from it with facial hair, women, weight and clothing. Her lifelong battle with anorexia, how she learned to starve herself and then how she learned to think she could be pretty while being voluptuous. What it is like as a cutter, the pain and relief and how she used it to get through. Vivid plans for suicide attempts.

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