The Return of Rebel Cupcake on Friday September 27th and Upcoming Queer Dance Parties

I got the opportunity to use our original venue, Sugarland, again at an earlier time on a Friday night and I’m thrilled to bring it back periodically for new adventures!

The event is from 8-10, with a little bit longer show at 8:30. Still free gourmet cupcakes, a great DJ and a photo booth by Kelsey Dickey!

This month we’re celebrating The Craft! The 90s teen witch dramedy about peer pressure, fitting in and wiccan mischief.

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Bringing Woo to Nightlife: Group Solstice Ritual

Rebel Cupcake is certainly one of my sacred places. One of the best compliments I've gotten about it is that the person felt like this was the place they felt they could most be themselves in queer nightlife. The December 20, 2012 show being the night before the Winter Solstice I wanted to make it extra special. I put together six acts--four more than I usually book--at the intersections of the theme of Muppets, the end of the world (as we know it) and the darkness transforming to light that the solstice represents. I also adapted a group solstice ritual for use on the stage. The following is what happened.

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Brooklyn! Two Great Parties This Month AND An Incredible New Year’s Eve Bash!

The first Yes Ma'am was a wild success! It was so fun. The chatio was filled with folks meeting and mingling, the dance floor was popping. At the end of the night everyone started chanting "One more song! One more song!" DJ Average Jo was on FIRE. The bar sold a steady stream of the Yes Ma'am punch and I am experimenting with some new concoctions for next month to try to ease the hangover. I'm 33, these things matter to me. We had the New York Toy Collective tabling and this woman who was cleaning up from the event before Yes Ma'am said to me, "So, really, what kind of party is this exactly?" I assured her it was a dance party and for queers sex toy tables are really no big deal and not neccessarily indicative of some kind of orgy happening at any second. I mean, sure, sometimes but not always.

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GAY SEX WEEK: The Queer Fat Femme Guide to Finding People to Have Gay Sex With You

Hi friends and welcome to NATIONAL QUEERFATFEMME.COM GAY SEX WEEK. I thought that the first thing I would talk about was how to find other people to have gay sex with you.

Conveniently, this solicited advice question landed in my inbox a couple of weeks ago. I offer some solid tips to you, dear readers, and some direct advice to someone who has a specific desire.

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Hey Brooklyn! August 11th Rebel Cupcake Sad Songs Say So Much!

I really love sad songs. It's fun and indulgent to listen to a tragic torch song. I'm a super glass half-full Pollyanna optimist, but I do acknowledge that sometimes queers get so caught up in the "We have to show how happy we are all the time" act and sometimes it's just plain hard to live a marginalized identity. It's really lonely sometimes. Especially for those of us who maybe don't have families around the holidays or who date emotionally absent folks.

With this in mind I curated a sad songs Rebel Cupcake. I'm not afraid to go there at a dance party cabaret. I tapped my pal Kit Yan, amazing slam poet, who is about to give up his crown to the successor Mr. Transman on August 28th at Murray Hill's pageant. Kit knows how to write a heartbreaker of a poem. He's also doing a kickstarter pre-sale of his new album, check him out and support queer art!

The infamous Taylor Black is a really talented singer and guitar player and knows the plight of the tragic homosexual.

And to top it all off, Miss Mary Wanna returns with a sad burlesque number. I just told her "Work it out onstage, girl." I can't wait to see what she comes up with!

After the show we'll dance to songs about heartbreak!

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Ways to Tell a Queer Femme is Queer

The problem is, there is no one “us.” Identities like Femme are deeply personal and there’s no one way to be Femme. There are certainly overlapping characteristics and generalizations that exist--which is how we find each other and create community. Tenderly paw in paw we find ourselves a niche (or several) in queerdom. But it is essentialist to say “This is a trait common amongst Femmes,” because as soon as you think you’ve isolated one commonality about Femmes you’ll find a whole pile of Femmes who belie that trait. This is simultaneously awesome and complicated when you’re trying to spot a Femme in the wild.

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My Intention Behind Art & Soul

I went to visit the space and it seemed like a great spot. It's well-lit like a coffee shop and there is cool art on the wall. The exhibit will change every month. The bar itself has a really cozy vibe and the gallery has couches, chairs, tables with flexible arrangements which makes it perfect as an event space. The bar serves beer, wine and has a menu of nice food. I immediately thought, "This is the kind of place I want to hang out with my friends."

Rebel Cupcake has been wonderful and I am going to keep putting it on, but it is still very nightclub and harder to meet new people unless you're comfortable doing the bar scene meeting new people thing. Art and Soul is definitely going to have a different vibe. I'm hoping late 90s inclusive feminist bookstore coffee shop.

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