This is What Happened for Bevin at the Femme Conference 2012

It's really special to peacock for other Femmes. Put on what makes you feel the best and admire others. For me it is not at all about Femme competition, it's about how one piece of glitter sparkles on its own but how hundreds of pieces of glitter shine infinitely more brilliantly. But here at Femme Conference we're shining for each other and it's ablaze and beautiful.

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Re-Entry Nacho Bites

It took over two hours to prep and then more time to clean-up but I thought it was totally worth it. I usually turn on some kind of inspirational noise (like a talk, sermon or interview) and it's very meditative.

So, here's how I cobbled together my Nacho Bites and I am interested to know if folks have better/different/faster dumpling assembly methods than my sort of figure it out on the fly methods. I always love when my favorite bloggers share recipes so here goes.

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50 Shades of Glitter: On Self-Examination and Shifting Desires

If we're coming from a place of acknowledging there are so many different ways to be Femme, why is it valid to make a blanket statement that people aren't attracted to Femmes at all?

I also want to make it clear that this post is as much addressed to Femme-identified folks who don't do Femme on Femme Action (FOFA) as much as non-Femme identified folks.

I've addressed this tired line before, focusing on debunking Femme as high maintenance. Now I want to focus on shifting desire and whether the idea that one can actually say they all the time never are attracted to Femmes.

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Brooklyn Queer Dance Party Magic Times August 16th

This month I'm doing a theme based on my favorite artist of all times, Lucinda Williams. She's not dance party per se (or at all) but I love her song Lonely Girls. "Sparkly rhinestones/pretty dresses/fancy hairdos worn by lonely girls." I just imagine these gorgeous feminine archetypes sitting at the bar and being approached by cowboys or other lonely girls. And we all know cowboys are frequently fond of each other. So it's a big ol' queer free for all and it is going to be gorgeous!

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Femme Solidarity Workshop at the Philly Trans Health Conference

I live tweeted the workshop and got quotes as best as I could truncate while things popped around the room. Ultimately, I really enjoyed that the discussion centered around addressing misogyny in queer spaces and how that affects spaces like the PTHC where femininity can be drowned out by a "dudely" privileging of masculinity. I thought it was a good conversation to have and in a free-form workshop like the one we were in, even though it didn't really address Femme solidarity directly.

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Interview: Butch Voices Conference

Joe LeBlanc, the Conference Chair and founder of the Butch Voices Conference August 20-23, 2009, told me about the conference almost a year ago and I loved the idea. Watching it develop since October has been really incredible. What began as the germ of an idea has become something really big and amazing. If you can road trip or take a last-minute change of plans and go to this conference you absolutely MUST. The Femme Conference changed my life--I can only imagine how incredible Butch Voices will be.

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Update about the Femme Conference

Your Femme Steering Committee hopes that you are having a wonderful year. As you may have guessed it is about time for us to start gearing up for 2010. We are very excited about Femme2010 and hope you are too! For those of you who were with us in 2008, you know that we ran at a $3995.07 deficit. We have managed, through generous donations from Femme Conference supporters, to raise $1606.45 to offset the deficit, but we are still short $2388.62. You can check out the financials page for 2008 here.

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