As I absorbed the other lies I was taught about being a fat woman—that I was not sexually attractive, I better not wear anything revealing and I should try not to draw attention to myself—I lost any desire to discover my own style and perform my gender. Performing gender is a way of showing your internal gender identity externally—usually through clothes, accessories, and maybe make-up.
I got the following question in my comments about a topic I'm very passionate about--thigh chafing aka chub rub prevention!
What about swimming? How do we go swimming with bikini bottoms but still prevent the chafing?
I'm so glad you asked! I've never actually found swimming to cause chub rub for me, but I have definitely had moments at pool parties and beaches where I needed to surreptitiously apply chub rub prevention for out of the water wandering and socializing. It's hard to find a clandestine spot to rub something between your thighs out at the beach, and you don't want to wait until it's too late!
I was so excited to hear that Beth was working on a new line and it launched Monday at 3AM Pacific Time! First thing I did this morning was browse the collection.
This time Beth is doing it herself as an indie designer--no corporation. Everything is made in factories in NYC and she's gotten input from her designer friends to help put it together. Beth says herself these are investment pieces, and she's right. They are priced like indie designer pieces but from what I can tell via the internet look totally worth it. Timeless and well conceived. I can't wait to hear from folks their feedback about the fit and fabric!
This is a letter I wrote to Oprah Magazine in response to a call for reader input in the August 2015 issue. It is in response to the totally banal and fatphobic response to a reader question in O Magazine that folks should wear crop tops “If (and only if) they have flat stomachs.” I generally skim or skip the style and beauty content in O Magazine every month because it’s written towards folks who are seeking a more neutral style than I am looking for. But given the deep internet controversy I thought this was a great time to offer Oprah some unsolicited advice about how she could be doing better.
Since posts are better with photos of lots of folks with different bodies, I have asked my friends to be part of a crop top army, their photos and links are throughout this post.
So the other day I got a phone call from a reporter friend of mine at the New York Daily News (one of the big dailies in NYC) doing an article about plus size model Tess Holliday (formerly known as Tess Munster) being signed to a modeling agency. Tess is unusual because she's only 5'4" and a size 22--much different proportions than the standard for plus size models. By the way, even though plus size models are modeling clothing worn by women of lots of different shapes and sizes, the "industry standard" is under size 14 and 5'8" or taller.
I did the interview and my quote is good and meaty. I had a lot more to say than what my quote could fit, so here are my thoughts on why it's important that Tess was signed by an agency and the resulting media storm.
The flavor is Youthberry Wild Orange Blossom Blend with Rock Sugar Sample. The link I'm giving here has slightly different ingredients than the one I was given as part of Leo's tea stash divestment, so perhaps Teavana changed their blend? Now I have something else to investigate.
All that is to say that people bring up thigh chafing to me all the time and I'm ever exploring ways to prevent and treat chub rub. This summer I talked about it briefly to a couple of folks and I was given the tip that this all-natural diaper rash cream called Butt Paste is great at preventing chub rub.
Nicky pointed out to me at the last WHAM BAM! that floral prints are all the rage in the queer scene--especially for the masculine of center crowd. "Flower bois," they said (pronounced "bwah" here). "They're everywhere."
They were right. I've been seeing it everywhere. Florals are all over menswear. I love it, especially because it's a little gender bendy. It's the same reason I love pink on butches--it's one of my favorite colors and I like butches. Together, it is pleasing. I love a bold floral print and I love seeing it on my fashionable friends.
Shabby Apple reached out to me as a fat style blogger person to find out if I was interested in doing a review and giveaway. I had never looked at their site before, but was delighted to find a lot of dresses in the style of vintage clothing, many of which are available in plus size.
Hey readership! I have a giant stash of vintage (mostly) I collected around the country thinking I was going to do more pop-up shops than I ended up doing. I have it all neatly photographed in an album right here, but I'd love to highlight some of the gems for Spring for you below. Each photo on flickr shows the measurements, which is the best way to shop. It all ranges in price from ten bucks to forty, most around $25 or $30.