LA Week Five: Turning Social

LA Week Five: Turning Social

I'm loving these weekly check-ins about the transition to LA. I keep reminding myself of the power of six months, that in six months everything will be different, settled, and all of this transitioning stuff won't be in the forefront of my mind all the time.

There's so much more to the transition than I thought there would be. I guess I thought I could prepare and plan enough, since I spent months preparing and planning for the move. But I don't think I had any idea what kind of energy it requires to not know where anything is and get acclimated to a whole new place. Most of the time when I've moved in the past I had at least a passing comfort with the neighborhood.

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LA Week Four: We’re Getting There

LA Week Four: We’re Getting There

Tomorrow marks four weeks since we took possession of our dream house / super quirky rental. I kind of can't believe that it's been so long because it has gone by so fast.

We've been so focused on getting the house put together while trying to manage all those new things that affect how you settle in somewhere that it is hard to feel that we're in LA for real. If you ignore the time of year and weather, which is very special and wonderful, I could be anywhere learning new stuff. Where is the bank? Where is the grocery store? Which grocery store do I supplement Trader Joe's with? How many times can we go to Home Depot before we become a lesbian cliché, and do I get a pass for a certain period of time after moving? Where is the most ethical/farm to table butcher shop? (The last question still unanswered.)

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Untapped Cruising Territory: NPR Singles’ Mixers

Untapped Cruising Territory: NPR Singles’ Mixers

Awhile ago I started a blog adventure to go to regions of NYC looking for queer cruising opportunities I hadn't explored. I believe life begins at the end of your comfort zone and I really think that's true for dating in this wild city. In a time when I was totally not cruising I ended up finding a gem I wanted to report back to my readers! Even in times of temporal monogamy* I'm looking out to try to get my readers laid!

I was in the process of developing an email to friends to ask for networking events they knew of. All of a sudden, as though a message from the Goddess, I heard an advertisement on NPR for a lesbian mixer. It was so perfect! The event promo on the radio made it sound like a networking event and the event page on the WNYC website made it sound like a singles' mixer. I was already sold either way.

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Making Changes: My Interview with Grace Chu on her Year of Celibacy

About a month ago I ran into my friend Grace Chu and she told me that she had been celibate for nearly a year and that it has been wildly successful in terms of grounding her and focusing on her photography. She popped open her smart phone to show me an email from a huge publication asking for her to photograph something.

Now, Grace Chu is all about internet anonymity of her photo, so just know that she's a hot dyke--the kind that every gay girl I knew in college would have dropped to her knees for. She's really social and has an endearing awkwardness. Also, I have totally noticed over the last year that she seems a lot more serene, grounded and happy.

I checked in again with her last week and I asked if I could interview her on the occasion of her official one year of celibacy and I hope you enjoy her insights!

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Five Ways I’ve Learned to Embrace the Velocity of Change

I've noticed my friends going through a ton of big changes lately. Huge new jobs—dream jobs. Sudden moves. Losses of many kinds. A lot of them have gotten into romances in the last few weeks–it reminds me so clearly of that time where I thought I was going to lose my friend. I'm still having to remind myself often that I've weathered these kinds of friendship changes before and it is going to be okay.

I'm positive all of these big changes aren't just isolated to my friends. Since this is probably relevant to my readers, too, I thought I would do a round-up of some of the things I've learned along the way about embracing the velocity of change.

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