This summer I had the good fortune to meet Christine Dunn-Cunningham, better known as the Lesbian Love Guru. I was a little bit skeptical (that name is some big britches to fill!) so I settled in, Queer Oprah style, to ask her what she knew about lesbian relationships. I was really impressed with her advice! She had a lot of right-on perspective about how important it is to put work into your relationships. She’s launching a new program called “Relationship Magic: How to Re-Ignite, Re-Invent, & Re-Define your relationship to create deeper connection, love, and passion!” Christine asked me to share the program with my readers. She’s going to be giving away 3 videos filled with things you can use to create fulfilling relationships no matter what relationship stage you’re in.
Bandelettes are a strategy that doesn't involve creams, lotions or reapplication. They are bands of stretchy lace 6" long and silicone grippers that fit on your thighs where the chafe is most egregious and prevent the rubbing. I was a bit dubious at first, having been wildly disappointed by thigh high stockings in the past where the silicone gripper was meant to keep them up and failed horribly. However, I was pleasantly surprised by how well Bandelettes performed!
This year I've decided to "Know My Own Strength." I struggled with choosing this as an intention for a minute because I wondered if it was going to incite the Goddess to rain down shit upon me the way she did during my Saturn Return. I know I never get any challenge that I'm not actually strong enough for. Also, it's one of the major emerging themes in the memoir I'm writing, that I didn't know my own strength. I'm learning a lot from the process of writing the book and some of the stuff I'm learning are things I didn't realize about myself. Like how much I never really knew my own strength. So I am imagining a 2013 where I meet challenges head-on, knowing I have everything I need to meet them. Including the ever important ability to ask for help when I need it!
I've been noticing how I respond to hat-wearing queers and it is usually pretty positive, so long as the hat fits well and works well on the head of the person wearing it. Often I notice that if the hat is a bad fit or shape for the person it kills the whole look. So I decided to ask my pal Nicky Cutler (co-producer of Yes Ma'am) who works for Goorin Bros. what to keep in mind when purchasing a hat. This advice goes for folks of all genders, though I am presenting it with a special dedication to those dapper gents who wish to take their outfits to the next level. Omigoddess, a good hat. Swoon.
In this episode of the Lesbian Tea Basket I talk about my cat ALF's near death experience and how this has amped up my anxieties and how I've been having trouble sleeping! And so I bought some Sleep Tea from my favorite tea dealer The Herb Shoppe and I do a little experiment about whether it will actually help me sleep. I didn't have this list of ingredients while I was filming but I just called the Shoppe and they are so helpful. Here's what's in it. You can totally order it from them maybe not on the website but you can call the Portland store and get them to ship it to you. I love local indie businesses!
"I call it the Comfort of Queer Family Wisdom and it's for anyone who could use a little tender love and history because we are not alone." We can all use tender love! The calendar is beautiful and full of queer faces. "This is all-out, gloves off, direct action TLC. These are the voices and role models that I sought out for comfort and strength. This is the calendar that I'd wished I'd had: full of family trees and loving words to remind you that you belong. A lot of the advice is also for facing racism."