Queer Fat Femme header image 4

Validation Day Thoughts

February 14th, 2010 · 2 Comments

It is a radical act to love yourself in a society that says you shouldn’t because of any number of your inalienable characteristics. It is a radical act to create a career that is different than the typical 9 to 5. It is a radical act to send your friends cards with compliments on them (which is what I did for Validation Day, but now I think the blizzard from last week delayed their arrival).

[Read more →]

Tags: Queer Oprah

Femme Family Zine #1: Femme Coming Out NOW AVAILABLE

December 11th, 2009 · 4 Comments

Femme Family NYC is ever so proud to announce our Femme Coming Out zine. It includes work from 20 femme contributors ranging from poets, activists, illustrators, photographers, performance artists, musicians, students and more! We’re also sending all proceeds from the sale of this zine to The Femme Collective, to help fundraise towards the next Femme Conference!

Contents include prose, personal narrative, poetry, illustrations, love letters to lost Femme friends, photography and more!

[Read more →]

Tags: Events and Announcements · Fatshion · femme book club

The Queer Fat Femme Guide to Surviving Getting Stood Up

September 15th, 2009 · 3 Comments

I got stood up on Sunday night. Since one of my Queer Fat Femme values is to turn rage into productivity, I decided to share with you my Stand Up Survival Guide.

[Read more →]

Tags: Glitter on the Mattress · Queer Fat Femme and the City · Queer Oprah

On Femme Dates, Femme on Femme Action and Cultivating Both

July 17th, 2009 · 6 Comments

If you read my definition of Femme Date, I say “In this context I mean it as a platonic event that is ultimately constructed as a romantic date is, but without the bumbling, attraction questions or all of the other baggage of a regular date. It’s specifically designed for Femme bonding time.” Femme Dates are all about not being romantic dates. NOT TO THE EXCLUSION OF FEMMES DATING.

Here’s the thing–if two Femmes go on a romantic date, it’s called a DATE. Just like if a Butch and a Butch go on a romantic date, or a Genderqueer and a Femme or whatever. Two Femmes going on a date is a date that, of course, increases the FOFA (god that’s such a great acronym) in the world, and, according to Cherry Poppins, when two Femmes do it they produce glitter that comes out of nowhere. It happened to her and her ladyfriend and they were very thrilled.

[Read more →]

Tags: Queer Oprah · queer lexicography

New Minisode of FemmeCast Now Available!!

June 29th, 2009 · No Comments

After a brief hiatus, FemmeCast returns with a minisode all about the sweet stuff (or the not so sweet stuff we turn into a good story)!!

Host Bevin Branlandingham is joined by Femme Shark Correspondent Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha, hosting live from a road trip journey earlier this Spring.

[Read more →]

Tags: FemmeCast · Glitter on the Highway · The Whole Shack Shimmies

Additions to the Queer Lexicography: Dry Spell Edition

June 16th, 2009 · 5 Comments

I have the following updates to the Queer Lexicography to present unto you.

The first, courtesy of Zuleikha Mahmood, co-founder of the Femme Sharks.

Critically underbanged. It’s a great alternative to the term “dry spell” but can also be used to describe Lesbian Bed Death and any really unsatisfying sex. She used it in a craig’s list ad of all places, to request that someone help her protest her state of being. It worked, too, she totally found her recent boo from it and is now contentedly well-banged.

[Read more →]

Tags: Events and Announcements · Glitter on the Front Porch · Glitter on the Mattress · Queer Fat Femme and the City · queer lexicography

Femme Lounge Wear

April 19th, 2009 · 3 Comments

I decided to start challenging the notion that I had to save my lingerie for occasional and brief visits from suitors** and wear it around the house for me. Now, I’m not really talking about crotchless nothings or underwear that wiggles down as soon as you walk two steps, I’m taking cute camisoles with a little bit of support in them, vintage lingerie, frilly robes and the like. I have to say, it’s totally revolutionized how I feel at home.

[Read more →]

Tags: Fatshion · Glitter on the Front Porch · Queer Fat Femme and the City · Queer Oprah

Guest Post: Zoe’s Break-up Survival Guide

April 2nd, 2009 · 7 Comments

When FemmeCast was just getting started, Bevin decided to do an episode about breakups and she asked me to share with listeners my tips for getting over a broken heart. As, at the time, the self-described “Queen of Heartbreak,” I felt well qualified to address this issue.

[Read more →]

Tags: FemmeCast · Guest Post · Queer Oprah

Metaphor of the Month: Eggs and Baskets

March 20th, 2009 · 2 Comments

Don’t put all of your eggs in one basket. It’s really good dating advice and especially so for girls like me and Spunky who are prone to Big Crushes.

[Read more →]

Tags: Metaphor of the Month · Queer Fat Femme and the City · Queer Oprah

Upcoming Gigs and the Trifecta Falling Apart

February 24th, 2009 · 1 Comment

I call these the “Big Three Issues”, Home, Job, Romance. When one is down it’s hard enough to deal with. The trifecta is really throwing me for a loop and I’m hanging onto my besties’ hands for dear life right now.

[Read more →]

Tags: Events and Announcements · FemmeCast · Glitter on the Front Porch · Queer Fat Femme and the City