The Plus Size Wedge differs from the original Wedge in the dimensions. The original measures 24 x 14 x 7 whereas the plus measures 30 x 14 x 7. I was on it and I was glad for the extra space. I could feel firmly planted in the center of the Wedge and didn't feel like I was falling off either side. If it was six inches smaller I would probably feel sort of insecure on it, like I might roll off. Insecurity is a total buzz kill for fat sex!
Probably one of the questions I am asked most often by people I don't know very well, other than legal advice, is about plus size lingerie shopping. I suppose it's a compliment to my personal shopping prowess and exceptional cleavage enhancement techniques. It's true, I ADORE lingerie. I wear loungerie to hang out in the house in and to sleep in, I wear fancy lingerie in the bedroom as well as on stage femmeceeing, I often wear vintage lingerie as dresses and shirts. I have the equivalent of a full closet of lingerie. That's not hyperbole. I believe lingerie is for all times and not just special occasions. It's like make-up for the bedroom.
I thought for FAT SEX WEEK I would do a round-up of the places that I really like (this list is by no means exhaustive, I could probably do four blog entries about lingerie). I also include a quickie product review of the Milana Bra by Genie!
This year I've decided to "Know My Own Strength." I struggled with choosing this as an intention for a minute because I wondered if it was going to incite the Goddess to rain down shit upon me the way she did during my Saturn Return. I know I never get any challenge that I'm not actually strong enough for. Also, it's one of the major emerging themes in the memoir I'm writing, that I didn't know my own strength. I'm learning a lot from the process of writing the book and some of the stuff I'm learning are things I didn't realize about myself. Like how much I never really knew my own strength. So I am imagining a 2013 where I meet challenges head-on, knowing I have everything I need to meet them. Including the ever important ability to ask for help when I need it!
After yesterday's post on How to Stuff a Femme's Stocking I was asked to draft the complimentary post for stuffing a Butch's stocking. I enlisted the help of a couple of Butch pals of mine, Jenn and Shelly, and with their input have created the following.
I only intend the title of this post to be a slight double entendre. It's not Gay Sex Week, so this post is mostly just about last-minute shopping for Femmes who have a stocking you're either creating or participating in.…
I'm writing all this both because I think it's important to talk about money so it is less mysterious and scary, and also to explain why it is that I am selling a ton of vintage pieces on the internet. I've amassed a great collection of vintage and resale plus size clothes since Re/Dress closed, mostly because I was going to start a pop-up shop with a friend of mine so we could keep access to this resource going. But, since I'm having a holiday money shit storm, I've instead decided to sell it all online. I wish I could have you all here to my home or a store to try on these lovelies and teach you how to style them ferociously, but sadly I cannot. Instead, I hope if any of these strikes your fancy you'll buy them from me!
"I call it the Comfort of Queer Family Wisdom and it's for anyone who could use a little tender love and history because we are not alone."
We can all use tender love! The calendar is beautiful and full of queer faces.
"This is all-out, gloves off, direct action TLC. These are the voices and role models that I sought out for comfort and strength. This is the calendar that I'd wished I'd had: full of family trees and loving words to remind you that you belong. A lot of the advice is also for facing racism."
A friend of mine got me this in pink once. Adam & Eve has it in black or red for $9.95. It's great because it sticks to itself and if you're not a very good knot person (unlike me, I was a Girl Scout) and want to play with bondage it is a great tool. **Safety first! Always have good scissors on hand--medical scissors recommended. And play with a safe word.**
I have to say that in lieu of having someone to play or have sex with, bondage tape makes a great make-shift halter bra when you need maximal cleavage and your back free of straps. Just get a friend to help you and wrap a fairly tight circle around your neck and under your boobs a bunch of time. I have a really cute deep cleavage halter dress and this is a must-have accessory.
I also like bondage tape for the cute stripes and criss crosses you can make along your body for costume purposes.
Hi friends! This featured post is brought to you in partnership with Marisota, as an introduction for my International readers. The opinions and language are all mine!
I was asked to look through the plus size ladies wear from Marisota. The first thing I do when I find a new plus brand is check out their shapewear and lingerie.