Femme On Femme, Art And Inspiration: A Conversation With GAYmous!

Femme on Femme, Art and Inspiration: A conversation with GAYmous!

I wrote about the awesomeness that is GAYmous a year ago, when they released their first video (Let's Pretend We Don't Have) Feelings. Since then, they've released a new self-titled EP and we're blessed with their newest video, Femme on Femme!

If poppy new wave and contemporary radically inclusive queer politics had twin babies and they came out as a spandex clad fat genderqueer femme and an LHB (stands for Long Hair Butch), that's GAYmous. GAYmous' sound is reminiscent of all of the magic I loved in the 80s. Do you like You Spin Me Round (Like a Record) by Dead or Alive? Or What Have I Done to Deserve This by Pet Shop Boys? Or Venus by Bananarama? You should give GAYmous a try!

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(Let’s Pretend We Don’t Have) Feelings–New Music Video From GAYmous!

(Let’s Pretend We Don’t Have) Feelings–New Music Video from GAYmous!

I adore the duo behind GAYmous, PizzaCupcake and FxBoi. They are incredible, talented and super rad people. And when I first watched their new video for "(Let's Pretend We Don't Have) Feelings" I couldn't help but smile. Watching fun queers dancing around, many of whom you'll recognize from my blog in years past and my travels to San Francisco, and listening to the incredibly catchy tune. It was morning when we watched it and my girlfriend was singing it in the shower a few minutes later.

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New Body Love Video By Mary Lambert

New Body Love Video by Mary Lambert

Mary Lambert, the hot tattooed queer singer brought to the stage of the Grammy's by singing the hook on Macklemore's "Same Love," song has released a new video about Body Love!

It's a gorgeous piece of spoken word about loving your body and finding your value within and I was super stoked to see lots of different types of bodies in it, including a trans*gentleman lovingly stroking top surgery scars.
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New Lovers Album ‘A Friend in the World’ out Today!

It’s hard to describe Lovers’ sound, but I would say kind of electronica sweetness with a steady groove. What I’ve always loved so hard about them is that Carolyn Berk, the lead singer, kind of plays her emotions like an instrument. Like I go on a real emotional roller coaster with Carolyn. My collection of Lovers albums is one of my go-tos for those moments of emotional cutting when I want to just really FEEL something, you know? It’s really gorgeous to watch Carolyn perform live because she just closes her eyes and looks like she’s right back in the corner of that empty house weeping and gnashing teeth over that lost love. I mean, that’s what I imagine it to be and art that gives me such a visceral reaction and colorful imaginings.

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FAT SEX WEEK: Sex Playlists and Fat Appreciation

It is empowering to have an identity. It's empowering to read about other folks who date fat people in spite of what society tells them is sexy or attractive. It is empowering to recognize that society tells you to be attracted to one thing and to swing your authentic preferences another way and work towards body empowerment.

What I find hard about it is that "chubby chaser" and "fat admirer" are current labels that, to me, seem to be fetishes and not appreciation. I don't want someone to find me attractive because I'm fat or in spite of being fat. I want someone who is attracted to me because of how being fat is part of who I am and also because I'm a babe. Not because it's a deviant sexuality to like fat girls.

I love fetishes and open sexuality but since most American women are above a size 14 doesn't that make us not that unusual?

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I Made A Playlist For You So You Can Get Make Outs

This playlist celebrates R&B from the 90s, that golden era of grind* when I first learned how to make-out. I feel that this is the perfect kind of music to get your party going. It's dancey but doesn't require dancing. It's good chat while maintaining a rhythmic bounce sort of music and it's also the tipping point for any conversation that could go to the make-out place to actually go to the make-out place. Before each Rebel Cupcake I have the DJ play a mix of 90s R&B and riot grrrl favorites and I have seen many pre-11PM dance party make-outs/bumps & grinds. Dim the lights and experiment with this playlist. You'll be hosting a make out party in no time.

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Music Monday: Lovers!

You know who will give these feelings in a way that my fellow musical emotional cutters will totally appreciate? Lovers will give it to you in the hurty way--hard and with a tortured look in their eyes. I saw Lovers live for the first time at Michfest a couple of weeks ago and have renewed my love for them from a firey and passionate place in my heart reserved for the most poetic and heart-breaking music.* You know how some music can take you on an emotional journey and relies on the instruments? The way Carolyn Berk sings you can tell she's feeling every moment.

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I Made This Playlist For You

In the meantime I often think to myself "I want to make a mix tape for my readers." I love making mixes for people, as anyone who has ever been courted by me can attest.* Since I don't have any serious crush objects right now, which is quite unusual, and instead I have all these other crushes. Like this platonic blog crush on a blogger I have almost nothing in common with but love her outlook on life, photography and way with words. She has a playlist that autoplays on her blog and I thought it was cool. Like she made a mix tape for her blog readers.

So I made you one. Just some songs. To get you through the fact that it's still snowing in April in some parts. I thought about putting the Prince song about April snow but it was more of a bummer than I wanted. So here it is. Maybe you'll be like me with Kelle's blog and sometimes go put on the playlist even when you're not reading my blog? Or maybe you'll dive into the archives listening to my all over the place taste. (I lament the new MEN album is totally unsearchable on the playlist site.)

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New Gossip Album!

“in Beth Ditto…I saw an out, queer fat femme owning her sexuality and hotness and never apologizing for it. Seeing someone else do it who was younger than me only inspired me to hurry up and get through my fat shame and start making something of myself. As she’s gotten more media exposure, I’ve seen Beth challenge notions of ‘cute’, ‘pretty’ and ‘fashionable’ in really hysterical ways. She’s a brave and amazing artist.”

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