When FemmeCast was just getting started, Bevin decided to do an episode about breakups and she asked me to share with listeners my tips for getting over a broken heart. As, at the time, the self-described “Queen of Heartbreak,” I felt well qualified to address this issue.
"We're fierce but not nuts, we're the Sharks!"--Leah, Epsiode 8 of FemmeCast
Don't put all of your eggs in one basket. It's really good dating advice and especially so for girls like me and Spunky who are prone to Big Crushes.
The show was TV Show Theme Songs. The Jeffersons theme, Charles in Charge, Six Feet Under, The Golden Girls, Facts of Life and a few others were highlighted. I co-femmeceed the show and have video!
We will love ourselves first. We don't hold back but know there's no rush. We are a dynamic duo. We rock our own shit but look great together. We close down bars and go for daybreak walks. We spend long Sundays in bed, talking, fucking and napping. We brunch with friends. Long talks about gender, sexuality, gossip, celebrity, art, media, social justice, movies, 80s nostalgic kitsch and how to incorporate 50s retro style in a modern decor.
I call these the "Big Three Issues", Home, Job, Romance. When one is down it's hard enough to deal with. The trifecta is really throwing me for a loop and I'm hanging onto my besties' hands for dear life right now.
An ongoing performance series curated by Bevin Branlandingham, Cupcake Cabaret features comedy, drag, burlesque, spoken word, film, performance art and all manner of genres celebrating the radical act of self-love.
In addition to being involved with one anothers' personal growth (which has been leagues in 10 years because we're too interesting to be static) we're also the kind of friends who can pore over the details of every relationship with one another. We emote identically--so when I don't know how to react to something because I'm all clouded with But I like her so much and I'm so attracted to her she will totally turn the mirror on me and say, "Look, the way she's acting is not the way you act when you want someone to stick around. You're worth more than that."
The next few weeks and follow-up visit have had me thinking a lot about Unicorn Dick in the context of the Queer Fat Femme lifestyle. Anyone who has done the dating thing as a Queer Femme knows how hard it is to find someone that embodies the killer combo of personality, looks, chemistry, smarts and timing.